Save the Date City

jmayinc

This may be a dumb question, but I want others' opinions. I am ordering Save the Dates and am 99% sure of my ceremony being in Akron, OH and reception in Stow...but it is not guaranteed. My STD has a "city" portion...I know it's just a STD, but is it super rude to just put Youngstown, OH ont he STD, it's only an hour away from the locations anyways. Akron and Stow are about 15 minutes apart. To me it doesn't seem like that big of a deal since the invitations will have the addresses of the venues, with directions etc, and it IS so close to where we live. So my question is, would it be rude/incorrect/dumb to put Youngstown, OH on it?

(sorry for such a long confusing explanation, just wanna be certain I'm explaining it properly)

emilykathleen511

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[QUOTE]This may be a dumb question, but I want others' opinions. I am ordering Save the Dates and am 99% sure of my ceremony being in Akron, OH and reception in Stow...but it is not guaranteed. My STD has a "city" portion...I know it's just a STD, but is it super rude to just put Youngstown, OH ont he STD, it's only an hour away from the locations anyways. Akron and Stow are about 15 minutes apart. To me it doesn't seem like that big of a deal since the invitations will have the addresses of the venues, with directions etc, and it IS so close to where we live. So my question is, would it be rude/incorrect/dumb to put Youngstown, OH on it? (sorry for such a long confusing explanation, just wanna be certain I'm explaining it properly)
Posted by jmayinc[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I really don't think you should send Save the Dates before your ceremony and reception venues are booked.

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AmJam04

To be honest, if you don't have your ceremony/reception locations set in stone (ie: under contract), then you shouldn't be sending out save the date cards because what if your perfect venue ends up being booked on that date? Or what if you end up going to a different venue in an entirely different area after all?

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[QUOTE]In Response to Save the Date City : I really don't think you should send Save the Dates before your ceremony and reception venues are booked.
Posted by emilykathleen511[/QUOTE]

This.  What happens if your venue is booked on that day and you change days?

MyUserName1

Yeah, you need to book the venues before ordering save the dates.  What if you fall in love with a venue, and can't get your preferred date there, you have to move to a different weekend?  Then you're stuck with a bunch of un-useable cards.

beardo1111

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[QUOTE]In Response to Save the Date City : <strong> I really don't think you should send Save the Dates before your ceremony and reception venues are booked.</strong>
Posted by emilykathleen511[/QUOTE]

This....you have to know your dates (and therefore your location....because you have it reserved for that date...) before you send save-the-dates.....

jmayinc

My date will not change, and my reception site is available awaiting my deposit. The only think "undecided" if you will, is whether I'm going to use their gazebo, which isn't exactly what I want, or going with the gazebo in Akron, which the date is being held for my decision. So there is no worry about it being a completely different place or different date/weekend etc.

beardo1111

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[QUOTE]My date will not change, and my reception site is available awaiting my deposit. <strong>The only think "undecided" if you will, is whether I'm going to use their gazebo, which isn't exactly what I want, or going with the gazebo in Akron</strong>, which the date is being held for my decision. So there is no worry about it being a completely different place or different date/weekend etc.
Posted by jmayinc[/QUOTE]

I would just decide this before ordering save-the-dates.  Seems like it would simplify things.

emilykathleen511

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[QUOTE]My date will not change, and my reception site is available awaiting my deposit. The only think "undecided" if you will, is whether I'm going to use their gazebo, which isn't exactly what I want, or going with the gazebo in Akron, which the date is being held for my decision. So there is no worry about it being a completely different place or different date/weekend etc.
Posted by jmayinc[/QUOTE]

<div>FWIW, I still think you should wait to order your STDs until this is all set in stone.</div><div>
</div><div>If you are dead set on ordering your STDs RIGHTNOW then I would advise against putting down a location. Either fill in the city "slot" with your wedding website URL or with the tagline "Formal Invitation to Follow" or just leave it blank.</div>

jmayinc

It really has no impact whatsoever. My question is WHICH city to use. We are from Youngstown, but reception in Stow, and the ceremony may be in Akron. Even if the only "undecided" thing is the ceremony place, I STILL would need opinions/correct way of either Stow or Youngstown.

emilykathleen511

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[QUOTE]It really has no impact whatsoever. My question is WHICH city to use. We are from Youngstown, but reception in Stow, and the ceremony may be in Akron. Even if the only "undecided" thing is the ceremony place, I STILL would need opinions/correct way of either Stow or Youngstown.
Posted by jmayinc[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Stow</div><div>
</div><div>Edit: Usually it would be the actual ceremony location, but in this case I would put the reception location because that is for sure.</div>

jmayinc

So if I have the ceremony in Akron and reception in Stow, then it would be Akron?

JoanE2012

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[QUOTE]It really has no impact whatsoever. My question is WHICH city to use. We are from Youngstown, but reception in Stow, and the ceremony may be in Akron. Even if the only "undecided" thing is the ceremony place, I STILL would need opinions/correct way of either Stow or Youngstown.
Posted by jmayinc[/QUOTE]

It does not make sense to use Youngstown.  Figure out where the ceremony is going to be for sure and then put that location on the STD.

jmayinc

Okay, thanks. That is what I was wondering...if it would be ceremony or reception or where you're from.

jessicabessica

According to your bio, you're getting married 8/3.  You're a little early for save the dates.  Aim to get them out 6-8 months before the wedding.  I would get your plans down in that time.  

If you must send them without finalizing the locations, put whatever location you know for sure the wedding will occur in (I guess it's Stow?).  

DramaGeek

Not where you're from, that makes no sense.  People use STDs to start making plans.  The next thing you know, someone has booked a hotel in the town where you like - but you aren't getting married there!

Pick either Akron or Stow.  If you hae a lot of OOT guests, Akron will be more familiar to them as a name.  Hoewever, if Akron's large and they may end up booking on the wrong side of town, I'd put Stow (assuming it's significantly smaller).

ThankfulSnail

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[QUOTE]Use whatever city people should aim to be closest to as far as hotel bookings and airfare.  If I got a Save the Date that said "Boston, MA" for a wedding that was taking place an hour away in Providence, RI, my travel plans would be shot.
Posted by KindaSparkly[/QUOTE]
Aaaaaaaaall of this. I know nothing about OH geography, but if I got an STD that said city X, I would book a flight & hotel in city X right away to make sure I got it covered. If I got an invitation 6-8 months later with a city an hour away, I'd be in big trouble.<div>
</div><div>I still think you're going to want to have your ceremony and reception venues booked and deposits paid just in case- this is the wedding business and they can't guarantee your date without your money, even if they're telling you it's being saved pending your deposit- but it sounds like you've decided that this is not going to work for you, so... good luck.</div>

beardo1111

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[QUOTE]<strong>Not where you're from, that makes no sense.  People use STDs to start making plans.</strong>  The next thing you know, someone has booked a hotel in the town where you like - but you aren't getting married there! Pick either Akron or Stow.  If you hae a lot of OOT guests, Akron will be more familiar to them as a name.  Hoewever, if Akron's large and they may end up booking on the wrong side of town, I'd put Stow (assuming it's significantly smaller).
Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]

This.  Where are you booking hotels for guests??  I would just put that as your city since what people will be wanting to know is where they're traveling to and from.  Also bear in mind that if your ceremony is a distance from your reception and hotels that you may want to provide transportation to and from, especially if a lot of guests are flying in and without cars.  I know this may not be the case with you but just something to bear in mind when deciding where to do the ceremony....generally the closer to the reception the simpler for planning purposes.  Good luck.

jmayinc

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[QUOTE]According to your bio, you're getting married 8/3.  You're a little early for save the dates.  Aim to get them out 6-8 months before the wedding.  I would get your plans down in that time.   If you must send them without finalizing the locations, put whatever location you know for sure the wedding will occur in (I guess it's Stow?).  
Posted by jessicabessica[/QUOTE]

I have people coming from various countries...6-8 is not a good planning range for them. And I didn't say they would be going out tomorrow. It will take a while for the graphic to be made and them printed n shipped to me and them me mailing them out and getting to them

jmayinc

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Save the Date City : Aaaaaaaaall of this. I know nothing about OH geography, but if I got an STD that said city X, I would book a flight & hotel in city X right away to make sure I got it covered. If I got an invitation 6-8 months later with a city an hour away, I'd be in big trouble. I still think you're going to want to have your ceremony and reception venues booked and deposits paid just in case- this is the wedding business and they can't guarantee your date without your money, even if they're telling you it's being saved pending your deposit- but it sounds like you've decided that this is not going to work for you, so... good luck.
Posted by ThankfulSnail[/QUOTE]

My deposit is in the mail on it's way to them. It's not like I'm sitting here taking 2 weeks taking their word for it.

beardo1111

Why are you being so rude to everyone? Reference your last two posts.... No one is being rude to you - they're just giving you honest answers and opinions.  And a bit of common sense.....i.e. finalize your dates and locations prior to sending out save-the-dates.  And I can't imagine that eight months out isn't enough time for people to book international flights (speaking as someone who's lived abroad and travelled quite a bit).  Jeez.

bridget4mcg

Wait until you have venues settled. I refused to even order my stds until I had my website up, bridal party asked and confirmed, date and venues fixed, and at least one hotel block ready.

bridget4mcg

I'm from Summit County. Don't say Youngstown. For people looking at hotels, travel plans, it would be misleading. Say Akron, and have a website for other info like maps. That way if people want to split the difference, they will know that's Cuyahoga Falls.

jmayinc

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[QUOTE]Why are you being so rude to everyone? Reference your last two posts.... No one is being rude to you - they're just giving you honest answers and opinions.  And a bit of common sense.....i.e. finalize your dates and locations prior to sending out save-the-dates.  And I can't imagine that eight months out isn't enough time for people to book international flights (speaking as someone who's lived abroad and travelled quite a bit).  Jeez.
Posted by beardo1111[/QUOTE]

I"m not being rude at all. It's just not necessary to continue to comment outside of the question asked when the question asked was already answered. I understand giving a little advice etc and other helpful tidbits, but it's redundant to continue to post about whether I SHOULD be sending out STD now or about venues being booked. Whether they were booked or not, my question was what city to use. Whether you think they should be sent now...later...etc is irrelevant. Bridget4mcg posted a comment WAY after the question was answered....but answered my question and offered additional reasons for why it's correct, which was fabulous.

And I said 6-8 mos was not convenient for THEM to plan...not you or anyone else in the world. It's not just about how long it takes to book a flight, there is money saving etc to take into account.

beardo1111

Um sure....not rude at all....riiiight.

It's a public forum....people are free to continue to post even after you're satisfied with the answer.  So yeah, no need to be rude just because comments fell outside of your pre-determined time limit or subject matter.

And traditional ETIQUETTE (this is an etiquette board after all) says that save-the-dates go 6-9 months out.  If you're doing it differently fine - but no need to rip on jessica for letting you know the proper ETIQUETTE.

melanieky

Use Akron so they can fly into the Akron-Canton airport. Don't use Youngstown, you don't put the city that you are from. However, I am from Cleveland but my wedding is in Beachwood. I put Cleveland because people will fly into the Cleveland Airport. But Stow and Akron are so close I don't think it makes much of a difference.

s-aries8990

Put the city as the location closest to the reception/ceremony venues. I know that I wouldn't be happy booking a hotel an hour away from the venues because the STD failed to convey the right local. Put it where it would be most convienent for your guests to stay.

arendiva

Since you have a bunch of international guests I would make it a priority to create a wedding website and include local maps, acticities and a block of hotels. If you block hotel rooms you can save your guests a bunch of money, ensure that they are at a nice place rather than a sketchy one (it's somethimes hard to tell when booking online) and keep everyone together which can facilitate carpooling (since a bunch of people are going to need to rent cars).

ljsquintz

I agree to wait until your venue is booked.  But if you absolutely have to send them out, just put the state (Ohio) and direct them to your wedding website, where you can post your accommodation info as soon as you book your venues.