Is this weird?

barbbhoww

Most of our guests are either a.) married b.)old or c.) getting married.  We have VERY few "single" guests besides my lovely FI friends.  Would it be weird to do the garter removal as usual and have a single guy catch it but give my bouquet to the person who dances the longest in the anniversary dance? 

I guess what I'm asking is that can you have one without the other?   Is this silly?

TIA ladies!

nda_roxybabe

Why not just skip both?

nda_roxybabe

Oh and whats an anniversary dance?

ricksang

So you want to do a dance off?

tlv204

I think that would be fine. I know in some circles, the man who catches the garter is supposed to put the garter on the leg of the woman who caught the bouquet, even though I've never seen this done.  I guess it might be awkward if lots of people expect this to happen and then the married bouquet catcher runs away from the drunk garter toting bachelor,  BUT if this isn't the norm for you and the bouquet catcher and garter catcher don't interact with each other then I don't see a problem at all.

Maybe I'm hungover AND high from Nyquil.  Sorry if that made no sense.

nda_roxybabe

Ricks- your picture just made me crave veggies and dip

JessAndTrav

I think that's a little strange, TBH.

If you have few singles, I'd advise against the tosses. Single people don't like to be spotlighted as being single.

ricksang

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[QUOTE]Ricks- your picture just made me crave veggies and dip
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

I know. Mmmmm. It's too bad the closest thing I will get to it tonight is the salad at Olive Garden.

banana468

I'd avoid the garter toss but I love the idea of the anniversary dance.  Generally the couple that seems to be married the longest are the grandparents of the bride or groom which makes the gesture extra-lovely.

aggiebug

I am planning on giving my bouqet to the "winner" of the anniversary dance.  I told FI he can do the garter toss if he would like, but its up to him. 

As for what an anniversary dance, its where all married couples are called to the dance floor, they dance and the dj tells couples to leave if they have been married less than 5yr, then 10, 15 etc until there is only one couple left.  The final couple typically gives advice to the bride and groom.

ggmae

I think it depends on your guests and what you think they would like. We did the tosses because a) DH wanted them and b) we had a lot of young friends at the wedding. We decided to forego the anniversary dance because we have several family members (grandparents, aunts, uncles) who have lost their spouses, and I really didn't want to make anyone sad.

tlv204

I still kind of wish we would have done an anniversary dance, but we didn't because there were too many early deaths (my dad, grandfathers, etc.) and waaaay too many divorces, and I think it would have ended up being a sad event instead of a happy one.

ggmae

Tlv - Get out of my head!

tlv204

Ha I didn't go back and read after I posted so I didn't even notice that!  But yeah my mom would have been crying before the song even started since she's not married and H's parents have been married for 30 years.

barbbhoww

FI wants to do the removal...he just wants to get in my pants.  And yes, it is going to be extra special because my grandparents have been married for 65 years.....not sure many people can beat that! 

ggmae

Tlv - I inadvertently made my aunt cry when she read her husband's name in our "In Memory of" section. It was right before she had to do a reading too, so she was sniffling the whole time.

nda_roxybabe

Ahh gotcha on the anniversary dance. Thats what I thought.

AmoroAgain

We didn't have any tosses of any kind because we only had a few people who are single, and I didn't think it would be very nice to point it out to everyone.

playtntsbpg30

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[QUOTE]FI wants to do the removal...he just wants to get in my pants.  And yes, it is going to be extra special because my grandparents have been married for 65 years.....not sure many people can beat that! 
Posted by barbbhoww[/QUOTE]

I'm a bit late in the mix here... This is awesome your grandparents being married that long. Mine are married 66 yrs, 67 this July and my parents 45 yrs. Not too many can be in or near those numbers but it's awesome when I see them..

I think if you just do these separate, where the lady won't have any interaction with the guy that got the garter. There should not be any problems. It's for fun and it's meaningful at the same time.
Have fun with it. And Best of luck.