We sent out our wedding invitaitons last week (we have a bunch of out-of-towners so we sent them out a couple weeks early since the hotel block discount ends on April 10). We put the RSVP deadline to 3 weeks before the wedding (the venue needs final headcount 2 weeks before because our guests have a choice of meal).
We got our first RSVP in the mail today, and I was a bit baffled at first. We had already put in names on the RSVPs to make it clear who was invited.
For this guest, Rob (we'll call him), we had put:
"Rob: choice of entree 1 or 2"
"Guest __________: choice of entree 1 or 2".
On his RSVP, he selected an entree for both himself and his guest, but hadn't filled in the guest name. So I contact him to find out, and all hell breaks loose. He tells me that he's still looking for a date, and worst case scenario he's bringing his brother's girlfriend! And even if he doesn't, he's more than happy to eat BOTH entrees!
Then he tops that off with "oh, and btw, I'm broke because of all the booze I just bought, so don't expect a gift or anything". It's not even that I expected a gift (we didn't even register or mention gifts at all!), but to be flat out told something like was just so awkward... all I said was "well, gifts certainly aren't necessary". I didn't even know what to say about the guest and double entree issue!
Any advice on how to deal with this guest? At this point, I feel like he doesn't understand that it's a wedding, it's like he thinks it's a frat party or something. I don't even know why he sent his RSVP back so quickly if he's still looking for a date, since he had plenty of time to figure that out!