All,
I'm recently engaged and have started the process of assembling vendors for our weddng. I have chosen the date and signed the contract with our venue, wedding planner, and photographer. When I spoke to my parents about the possible dates last month, January 25, 2014 came up as an option. January 25 is my adopted half brother's (read: my dad and step-mother's kid's) birthday, but my dad and step-mother said not to worry about the date conflicting with his birthday and to choose the date I wanted, so I went ahead and booked the venue, wedding planner, and photographer for that day, as it was the last Saturday to get a great rate at the resort we're having it at and it wasn't so close to Christmas and New Year's. However, last night, my step-mother told me that they are not telling the kid (he's 7) about the day being the same as his birthday, because it would make him cry, and it's already "my fault" for making him cry by not having the wedding sooner (apparently when he was told the wedding wasn't for over a year, he burst into tears because he wants to fly in an airplane and go to the resort we're having it at). He is going to be the only child at our wedding, and he is not exactly what I would call the most well-behaved child I know.
So, should I try to move the date up a week to "keep the peace" and accomodate the wishes of a 7 year old and his mother, or should I hold my ground and keep the date the same? I think it's pretty rediculous that I should have to plan my wedding around a 7 year old's feelings (plus I think the kid needs to realize that the world does not, in fact, revolve around him), but, at the same time, I'm worried that my dad will be more interested in keeping the kid happy on his birthday than he is about me getting married (which, in all honesty, he's probably going to be more concerned about the kid being bored/hungry/tired/wanting to go swimming than sticking around for my entire reception anyway). Thoughts?
Thanks in advance,
AJ