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frasey

Hey Ladies,

I think I need some advice here. We're getting married in July, so are getting ready to send out invites. But here's the sitch:

So my bro got married about 3 yrs ago, and has a 1.5 yr old daughter. Back in Dec though, he announced that he and his wife were breaking up and getting divorced. He moved out, daughter lives with her mom but my bro sees her quite often as per their agreement. He has since started dating a new girl who he knew before he broke up with his wife. You can read in between the lines as you see fit.

Here's the problem: I do not want to invite this new girl to my wedding. I have not met her, he is moving WAY too fast, and much of my family isnt even aware yet that he and his wife are not together anymore. My niece will be at the wedding.

Also, my FI's sibs arent bringing guests.

soooo is it cool for me not to invite her?

Mrs.B6302007

If they're still legally married then I don't think he would get a "guest".

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]Hey Ladies, I think I need some advice here. We're getting married in July, so are getting ready to send out invites. But here's the sitch: So my bro got married about 3 yrs ago, and has a 1.5 yr old daughter. Back in Dec though, he announced that he and his wife were breaking up and getting divorced. He moved out, daughter lives with her mom but my bro sees her quite often as per their agreement. He has since started dating a new girl who he knew before he broke up with his wife. You can read in between the lines as you see fit. Here's the problem: I do not want to invite this new girl to my wedding. I have not met her, he is moving WAY too fast, and much of my family isnt even aware yet that he and his wife are not together anymore. My niece will be at the wedding. Also, my FI's sibs arent bringing guests. soooo is it cool for me not to invite her?
Posted by frasey[/QUOTE]

Also, my answer is based on the fact that he's married, not about his relationships with the GF.  Your wedding isn't the time to judge relationships so don't let how you feel about her interfere.

hmcchesney

I would talk to your brother about it first.

Just explain that Fi's sibs aren't getting guests and if he wouldn't mind not bringing a guest due to restrictions of the venue.


I am not sure how your family is, but mine is very straight foward and honest. So I would tell my brother that I just don't think this would be the time for everyone to meet the girl and his daughter see her. It is nothing against the girl or the divorce, just picking a better time would be nice. But you don't have to listen to that advice, since it may not be alright in your family.