bm gifts - add on

slwager

So rather than have this buried i figured i'd start a thread and piss everyone off to get my q answered

i'm planning on giving my BM each a strand of pearls.  super simple.  super classic.  the real thing.  i'm not requiring them to wear them.  i'm also giving them ivory pashminas b/c wedding is outdoors in maine (in summer but it is the new england coast).  also not required attire-just trying to make sure no one gets cold.

i know it's not the most personalized thing but almost all of them have complimented the pearls i often wear (it's kind of a  thing with me) and i figured it's the kind of thing no one ever buys themself but are elegant forever.

yay or nay ladies?

Meg1979

I would frankly love real pearls if I wasn't required to wear them at the wedding.  I think it's a nice idea. 

LDYGTR13

Sounds good to me. Pearls are timeless.

WildRumpus

That sounds lovely. It's definitely something that I would appreciate. I don't mind matching bridesmaids gifts though.

Mrs.B6302007

Are all of your girls "classic" or are there one or two who are more edgy?  I think a strand of pearls is always nice to have on hand but how often would they get worn?  To a night at the theatre perhaps?  WIth a black dress to a funeral?  I don't personally own any and have never been "in need" of a strand.  My mom has had my grandma's for, oh, about 8 years now and has never worn them.  I think it depends on who is receiving them and whether or not they would be able to use them enough.

slwager

ha-i totally expected a string of "personalize it b*tch!". 

yay.  i like giving things that people keep.

mica178

I wear my pearls and my ivory pashmina all the time.  If your BMs don't already have those things, I think they are excellent gifts.  (I gave my BMs pashminas too, and I've since seen almost all of them wearing them in random FB pictures -- yay for a useful gift!)

LDYGTR13

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[QUOTE]That sounds lovely. It's definitely something that I would appreciate.<strong> I don't mind matching bridesmaids gifts though.</strong>
Posted by Jill9288[/QUOTE]

Me either. 2 of my BM's actually (separately) told me that they didn't like the idea of getting different gifts from the others.

slwager

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[QUOTE]Are all of your girls "classic" or are there one or two who are more edgy?  I think a strand of pearls is always nice to have on hand but how often would they get worn?  To a night at the theatre perhaps?  WIth a black dress to a funeral?  I don't personally own any and have never been "in need" of a strand.  My mom has had my grandma's for, oh, about 8 years now and has never worn them.  I think it depends on who is receiving them and whether or not they would be able to use them enough.
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

valid point.  most of them are (three are my sisters who have lots of formal occasions coming up in their lives)

one girl is a bit granola but always compliments my jewlery.

WildRumpus

I did cute yellow and gray clutches for my girls...not personalized, but something I know that they'll all use. I'm gooling to add lip gloss, lotion, and maybe a little perfume roller for each of them to try personalizing them a little bit

xyrius

personally i hardly ever where pearls but i still think it would be a sweet gift and nice to have on hand

xyrius

also, i don't mind matching gifts either.

Mrs.B6302007

I forgot to comment on the pashmina. I use mine a lot!I keep it in my purse for restaurants, the movies, shows at the performing arts center, etc.  Very practical.

annakb8

I like pearls and wear them on a regular basis but I don't think they make the best bridesmaid gift. I had a bunch of old ladies tell me I just had to get my bridesmaids pearls but the way I think about it is that you are either a pearl person or you aren't. If you are you probably already own a plain strand of pearls, if you aren't you will probably never wear pearls anyone else gives you. That being said, I'd rather receive a duplicate strand of pearls instead of some cheesy costume jewelry I'd never wear again. And I think the pashmina would be great.

slwager

Thanks again all!  Yeah, I'm 99% sure that no one has them (again 3 of the BM are my sisters) and the other 4 are my FSIL and my closest friends in the world.

I'm going to do a little jewlery snooping before  I buy to make sure no one has already.

If they really don't like them at least they have something of value to sell

noodle_oo

I have pearls, I like them but I never wear them.  My SIL gave us pearl earrings as presents for her BMs (actually that's why I bought the pearl necklace, she asked us to wear them in the wedding).  The earrings are beautiflu and I know they were pretty expensive, but honestly, they are NMS and I never wear them.

I think if you know they will like them, it is fine.  But really think about whether your girls have occasions to wear them.  I also think that if you give them all matching gifts, it is nice to also include at least one small thing that is unique to each girl, even if it is cheap.  It was very sweet of my SIL to give us the earrings, but I do have to admit I felt like it was more a required gesture and less than personal.  I thnk I would have felt a lot more special to her if she had gotten me something that showed she actually knew my tastes.

ETA:  Oh and I love pashmina's, I think that is a very useful gift.  However, I would never use white or ivory.  If you are buying white to match your wedidng, again that is more about you than them.  I have a black one and I find that WAY more useful of a color.

bonnyandtim

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[QUOTE]I would frankly love real pearls if I wasn't required to wear them at the wedding.  I think it's a nice idea. 
Posted by Meg1979[/QUOTE]

Ditto for me. My parents got me a strand when I graduated college, & they have come in very handy.