Co-workers on the Mind

jmkaiser

I don't think I have posted on this board yet but I have been struggling for a while whether to invite my co-workers or not. I have about 10 of them and we work in a close area. They have been very supportive of me and have been asking non-stop about when their invitation is coming. Only problem is, I can't afford to invite them all. I believe that it's going to have to be all or nothing (maybe with the exception of the CEO) but would it be rude to just invite them to the ceremony?

I would rather invite them to everything but it is not possible with the budget we have and we've made every cut we already could.

What do you ladies think I should do? Ceremony or nothing.....

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]I don't think I have posted on this board yet but I have been struggling for a while whether to invite my co-workers or not. I have about 10 of them and we work in a close area. They have been very supportive of me and have been asking non-stop about when their invitation is coming. Only problem is, I can't afford to invite them all. I believe that it's going to have to be all or nothing (maybe with the exception of the CEO) <strong>but would it be rude to just invite them to the ceremony</strong>? I would rather invite them to everything but it is not possible with the budget we have and we've made every cut we already could. What do you ladies think I should do? Ceremony or nothing.....
Posted by jmkaiser[/QUOTE]
Yes. Weddings aren't split up into two events. It's the whole shebang, ceremony and reception. If you can't afford to invite them to everything, then don't invite them.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]I don't think I have posted on this board yet but I have been struggling for a while whether to invite my co-workers or not. I have about 10 of them and we work in a close area. They have been very supportive of me and have been asking non-stop about when their invitation is coming. Only problem is, I can't afford to invite them all. I believe that it's going to have to be all or nothing (maybe with the exception of the CEO) but would it be rude to just invite them to the ceremony? I would rather invite them to everything but it is not possible with the budget we have and we've made every cut we already could. What do you ladies think I should do? Ceremony or nothing.....
Posted by jmkaiser[/QUOTE]
<strong>Never </strong>just to the ceremony.  That's extremely rude.
If you're really struggling to make a decision, then I think it's pretty clear that you should not invite them at all.

Meg1036

Nothing.   Everyone invited to the cermony needs to be invited to the reception.  The reception is the "thank-you" for attending the ceremony, and to not invite them shows very clearly that they are second-tier guests.

Only you know your work dynamic, but it is often suggested that you only need to invite coworkers with whom you socialize outside of the office, and that you *can* invite only a susbset of coworkers if you only socialize with a few.

When they ask if an invitation is coming, just say you are keeping the wedding small.  And don't talk about the wedding at work.

[Deleted User]

Ditto pp. Co-workers are the exception. Just tell them that due to your budget or space restrictions, you couldn't invite everyone. And refrain from talking about wedding related things at work.

Milsey32

First, inviting just to the ceremony is rude and second, they might not get the message they're not invited and find out from others at the ceremony how to get to the reception and then realize they have no place cards... that would be awkward. 

jmkaiser

Thanks ladies. Honestly I would hate to invite them to just the ceremony but I thought I would ask:) So would it be okay if I invited 2 or three of them and asked them not to talk about it? I don't want to make anyone feel left out or hurt.

Mrs.B6302007

Personally, I wouldn't if you work in that close of a space.  SOmeone's bound to slip up and start a conversation and then talk about awkward.