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arendiva

I think slacks, a button down and a tie would meet their request of "formal attire" I mean they can't be expecting people to wear tuxes with cowboy boots.

jessicabessica

I think that's fine.  Does he have a sport coat he could add if he is worried about being jacket-less?

MyNameIsNot

To be perfectly honest, I wouldn't wear cowboy boots with anything except jeans or a long cotton dress.  Either way, this couple is rude to dictate guests' attire, especially the shoes.  

I would wear whatever I would be comfortable wearing given the atmosphere, and tell the couple to get over it.  I would most certainly not be wearing a nice suit or cocktail dress to sit in hay.  

willywally5

I'd end up breathless in the ER if I went to a wedding and sat on hay, but as far as attire I'd wear what was comfortable for the environment. The couple can get the heck over themselves. If they want boot-wearing extras in their photos, they can hire actors.

Lisa50

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[QUOTE]I'd end up breathless in the ER if I went to a wedding and sat on hay, but as far as attire I'd wear what was comfortable for the environment. The couple can get the heck over themselves. <strong><font color="#0000ff">If they want boot-wearing extras in their photos, they can hire actors.</font></strong>
Posted by willywally5[/QUOTE]

Funniest thing I've seen on the boards in a while.  Thanks for the giggle!

Shlby81

Y not try an make them happy? I get him not wanting to ware a tux but why not the boots? Wouldnt u want peeps to try an make u happy on ur day?

kaos16

In Response to Re:dress code help:[QUOTE]Y not try an make them happy? I get him not wanting to ware a tux but why not the boots? Wouldnt u want peeps to try an make u happy on ur day? Posted by Shlby81[/QUOTE]

1. Some people don't have cowboy boots and don't have the money to spend on a pair to wear once

2. Some people find them uncomfortable or painful to wear

3. When people are rude it doesn't mean you must go out of your way to make them happy

KellyBrian2013

I'm in the minority here that doesn't have an issue with cowboy boots at more formal events, but I also have several pairs: my "work" cowboy boots for riding, mucking stalls, etc. and my "dress" boots for going out, dancing, weddings, etc. At my best friend's wedding, her H and all 4 of his GM wore black dress boots with their tuxes. That said, it is wrong of the bride and groom to give their guests a dress code outside of "black tie" and sitting on hay bales is anything but formal. Slacks and a button down with a tie is fine.

Summer2011Bride

I would wear what you want. It was rude of them to dictate attire. Frankly I wouldn't wear cowboy boots if I didn't want to. And I don't think formal attire when I think sitting on hay bales. There's no way I would wear a nice suit or cocktail dress and then go sit on hay, but that's just me. If they are going to have a wedding in a laid-back location, then I think they have to be OK with less format attire. I wouldn't worry about it, personally.

zizibet

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dress-code-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:655fe362-9437-46c5-b9dd-cb785567378cPost:6496d883-96e9-4791-922b-17215ef1e447">Re:dress code help</a>:
[QUOTE]For a wedding with hay bales for seating, I would think that would be fine. I never understand "formal with cowboy boots" cowboy boots are never formal, they're work shoes. It's like me saying "formal with steel toes".
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
  Stage, I'd totally go to that party!
  OP, that's fine. i can't imagine that many people will wear really good clothes to sit on hay bales.

ThroughTheWoods

Tell him to wear whatever he feels comfortable with.  It sounds like they are just trying to make a theme work and look good in pictures.  They were rude for telling everyone what to wear.  If your husband or anyone else does not feel comfortable in what they suggested, do not wear it. 

I think just a nice shirt with some nice pants and shoes would be more than acceptable.

ootmother2

Cowboyy boots are not formal.  Ever

ootmother2

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[QUOTE]Technically, evening formal attire is white tie and tails, a la Fred Astaire.  It is seldom seen these days.   I have no idea what your hosts mean by "formal attire with cowboy boots", but they committed a big etiquette faux pas by requesting it.  I imagine other guests will be as confused as you are. You should wear whatever you think is appropriate for the wedding if you still want to go.  They are the ones who broke the etiquette rules, not you.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

White tie is restricted to debutante balls and State Affairs.  Not weddings

2012FutureMrsB

Honestly, I would go with dress cowboy boots if you have them and want to wear them, a skirt or nice jeans and a nice blouse or otherwise a dress (something nice, but casual). For your FI, jeans or slacks but with a dress shirt and blazer, like PP's mentioned. That way, you look a little dressed up, but are still appropriate to the environment. If anybody gets upset, oh well. You did your best given the confusing directions and etiquette faux pas.

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]Y not try an make them happy? I get him not wanting to ware a tux but why not the boots? Wouldnt u want peeps to try an make u happy on ur day?
Posted by Shlby81[/QUOTE]

First, please stop with the text speak, it's very hard to read and annoying.

Second, I dont own cowboy boots and I wont buy them for a wedding.

Third a lot of people find them uncomfortable.

OP- I agree wear what you are comfortable with and if you dont want to wear boots, dont. They were rude to suggest it in the first place.

Loopyseven

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[QUOTE]Y not try an make them happy? I get him not wanting to ware a tux but why not the boots? Wouldnt u want peeps to try an make u happy on ur day?
Posted by Shlby81[/QUOTE]

<div>Please don't use text speak.  It's hard to read and doesn't make you appear very smart.  And it's WEAR not WARE.</div>

kd.joseph

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: dress code help : Please don't use text speak.  It's hard to read and doesn't make you appear very smart.  And it's WEAR not WARE.
Posted by Loopyseven[/QUOTE]

Thanks Loop, that was driving me crazier than the idea of cowboy boots.

[Deleted User]

In Response to Re:dress code help:[QUOTE]Technically, evening formal attire is white tie and tails, a la Fred Astaire.nbsp; It is seldom seen these days.nbsp;nbsp; I have no idea what your hosts mean by "formal attire with cowboy boots", but they committed a big etiquette faux pas by requesting it.nbsp; I imagine other guests will be as confused as you are.You should wear whatever you think is appropriate for the wedding if you still want to go.nbsp; They are the ones who broke the etiquette rules, not you. Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

monkeysip

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dress-code-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:655fe362-9437-46c5-b9dd-cb785567378cPost:f95e4ab0-9847-44c2-99bf-15818500db2b">Re: dress code help</a>:
[QUOTE]I'd end up breathless in the ER if I went to a wedding and sat on hay, but as far as attire I'd wear what was comfortable for the environment. The couple can get the heck over themselves. If they want boot-wearing extras in their photos, they can hire actors.
Posted by willywally5[/QUOTE]

This made me laugh also.  I think many people imagine their weddings to be a movie or something.

I would wear whatever reasonably nice outfit I had.  Even though I live in Texas, I don't own cowboy boots, and wouldn't buy any for the occassion. 

HuckSC

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: dress code help : White tie is restricted to debutante balls and State Affairs.  Not weddings
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]

Obviously we don't run in the same circles.

s-aries8990

Just as long as he looks like someone going to a wedding (whatever that means in your circles), whatever he wears should be fine. He will be formal- but how formal can they expect their guests to be when wearing cowboy boots? haha

alk0511

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dress-code-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:655fe362-9437-46c5-b9dd-cb785567378cPost:26205cc4-e9b0-481f-8b74-7908df8e9139">Re: dress code help</a>:
[QUOTE]Y not try an make them happy? I get him not wanting to ware a tux but why not the boots? Wouldnt u want peeps to try an make u happy on ur day?
Posted by Shlby81[/QUOTE]

I read this and all I see is
<div style="text-align:center;"><img src="http://i0.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/original/000/074/586/tumblr_l7l1nqA5va1qdsweso1_1280.jpg?1318992465" alt="" width="336" height="210" /></div>

Can't really un-see things from that point.  Shlby...you are forever him now.