2 receptions??

ntaylor13

Long story short...me & my fiance planned on getting married at our church (which would have been an open invite) and having a light reception right after the ceremony for those not coming to the "big reception".  Now that the church plans have changed (long story) we are no longer having the "1st reception."  We sent out our save the date cards a while ago and sent some to people not attending the "big reception."  Is it tacky just not to send those people an invitation??  I would hate to invite anyone to a "ceremony only" wedding.

[Deleted User]

There is so much wrong with this I don't even know where to start.

baystateapple

Invite everyone to the ceremony and everyone to the reception.  What you are planning is extremely rude.

Now that you have sent save the dates to people, you have to send them an invitation.  To the entire reception.

button6004

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[QUOTE]Long story short...me & my fiance planned on getting married at our church (which would have been an open invite) and having a light reception right after the ceremony for those not coming to the "big reception".  Now that the church plans have changed (long story) we are no longer having the "1st reception."  We sent out our save the date cards a while ago and sent some to people not attending the "big reception."  Is it tacky just not to send those people an invitation??  I would hate to invite anyone to a "ceremony only" wedding.
Posted by ntaylor13[/QUOTE]

If you send someone a save the date, they should be invited to your ceremony AND reception.  Also, it is incredibly rude to have a tiered reception like that. How would you feel if you found out you were only invited to the "light" reception and didnt get invited to the regular reception?

ETA: Quoted JIC

strlzfan11

The open invite to the church ceremony is common practice in many areas.  That being said, having a tiered reception is a big no-no.  You've changed your plans, but since you sent STDs to people who were only supposed to be a part of the church tier, you now need to suck it up and invite them to the whole shebang.  STD = invite.

Mrs.B6302007

This is why the freaking Knot needs to quit snacking on threads.  Wasn't there another one of similar content just a couple of hours ago?

strlzfan11

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_2-receptions-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:663a97b7-7050-44cb-a223-bc01933a6396Post:50dd6857-1453-4542-b29a-978225c41ca4">Re: 2 receptions??</a>:
[QUOTE]This is why the freaking Knot needs to quit snacking on threads.  Wasn't there another one of similar content just a couple of hours ago?
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

Yup!

Mrs.B6302007

Are you unable to afford the "big reception" for all of the people who received "first reception" STDs?  If that's the case, then you need to find the money or scale down the "big reception" to include everyone.

marriedfilingjointly

I want to hear the "long story."

jmayinc

I don't exactly understand the entire post, but from what I did understand, anyone who got a STD gets an invite, you may have to simply adjust your budget to account for them. I don't get the "light" reception, "big" reception. But if I was invited to a snack reception, and not to the big party celebration, I'd be a bit peeved. Not even because I didn't get a big meal or something, but since I wasn't thought important enough to celebrate with you, only have a lil snack cuz you feel obligated.