How do I only invite kids 12+ to the ceremony and reception??

nambrus

Due to the safety of the reception (it's right on a lake), we thought about only inviting children 12+. With that said could we write the following on the invitations, "Due to the nature of the facility we are requesting 12 and up"???

nambrus

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[QUOTE]In Response to How do I only invite kids 12+ to the ceremony and reception?? : You wouldn't put it on the invitation, you would just put the names of the kids on the invitation along with the parents.  But are you only inviting them to the reception?  They should be invited to the ceremony as well.  Also, are there any families that might be split up with this decision?
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

So the names should be mom, dad, and kids we WANT to invite? No, 12+ to the ceremony and reception. I don't believe that we will split any families up.

nambrus

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How do I only invite kids 12+ to the ceremony and reception?? : Yes.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

Thank you!! :)

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]Don't put 12+ on the invites, just address them to the people invited. Does your age cut off split families? <strong>An eight year old isn't going to understand why her 12 year old brother is invited but she isn't. </strong>Granted our wedding was in October, but it was on a lake and I never once worried about it. Parents know to supervise their kids.
Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]
The kids in my family would understand. 12 (13) is the bat/bar mitzvah age, so that cut-off is actually used more often than 18.

Blodwyn727

When my best friend got married, the same question came up - whether to invite children to the wedding/reception. Her father gave her some good advise that I will never forget. He said to her "Do you really want to be known to the in-laws as the woman who didn't allow kids at her wedding?" My wedding is being held at a B&B on a lake and there is a pool as well. I've warned those with small children of the 'water hazards' and they know to keep an eye on their children. I'm also planning on a 'kids corner' to help keep them occupied.

mbuckley85

For the record, I only invited one kid from my cousins family (the three kids are 12, 7 and 5 and we invited the oldest only).  I was immediately questioned by my cousin as to why all her kids weren't invited, and I posted here and was told that it is rude to split families.  

We are inviting kids under 12 but they are the ones in the wedding party and FI's nephews only.  

RockstarWifey0912

If the norm in your family is 12/13 for religious reasons, then family may be more understanding.  At the same time, as a parent, if a wedding were on a lake, I wouldn't WANT to bring my younger children anyway, because I wouldn't want to risk something happening accidently.

Sounds like you got your answer, good luck!