uuuuugh.

LDYGTR13

FMIL gave me a list of all of her coworkers to send invites to the wedding to. No worries. Unfortunately - I didn't know that 2 of these women were married. She listed the other married women on her list as "Jack and Jane Doe" but these women were just listed as "Suzie McBeth" so I assumed they were single. Now I've mailed out invites to two women who are married, and their husbands aren't mentioned. I feel like a dummy. I shoulda asked - I just wish FMIL had done all of them as "Jack and Jane Doe" if she was going to any of them.

I'll just have to be the chick who didn't put the hubbies on the invites. Blah.

sarah0725

You'll live. Just send them amended invitations and explain you made a mistake. Or have FMIL call them.

FutureMrsTR

That's stupid that your FMIL would list some married women with their husbands and others separately.  That's her bad and if/when those women called to clarify, I would have to bite my tongue from mentioning that she screwed up, not me.

apple_green

Yeah, have FMIL tell them. You don't even know them so whatev.

rbtrumpet

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_uuuuugh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:67756ff7-b88c-4b1c-a4d2-2e4fe716e5c4Post:68a499a9-e961-4268-be70-8561199ffa7b">Re: uuuuugh.</a>:
[QUOTE]That's stupid that your FMIL would list some married women with their husbands and others separately.  That's her bad and if/when those women called to clarify, I<strong> would have to bite my tongue from mentioning that she screwed up, not me.
</strong>Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

You'd be a better person than me.  If/when they called I would just respond "ohh, I'm sorry, I was not informed you were married, yes, you may bring your husband."

jenellsrevenge

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_uuuuugh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:67756ff7-b88c-4b1c-a4d2-2e4fe716e5c4Post:08fcd7ef-7a73-427a-8ee2-86916d05535e">Re: uuuuugh.</a>:
[QUOTE] You'd be a better person than me.  If/when they called I would just respond "ohh, I'm sorry, I was not informed you were married, yes, you may bring your husband."
Posted by rbtrumpet[/QUOTE]

Exactly this, I wouldn't take the fall for her mistake.

squirrly

I'd probably just mail a note card to each of them saying,

I just found out that you're married, and we would love to extend the invitation to your husband as well.  Please RSVP for both of you on the original wedding invitation.

My apologies for any confusion this may have caused.

Sincerely,
Bride