Addressing Save the Dates (guests, kids)

amalama

Should I list everyone on the STDs? We are inviting children of family and everyone will have a plus one. The plus ones (meaning dates for singles, not SOs) I would ideally leave off just in case something happens (with everyone getting a date we are at capacity and you never know if we will think of someone else we are missing or something), but I don't know if that will make it harder for everyone to plan if we wait until invitations go out to include "and guest".  

Knottie_22382049

I think you can just address the families as The Smith Family or Mr & Mr Smith and Family. For the singles just address the STD to them you can add the guest when you send the invites out. 

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[QUOTE]Are the people getting +1's flying in for the wedding?  If they have to book tickets, I would try and include the guest on there so they can plan accordingly.  If it's a local guest, you are probably safer just listing one person just in case some sort of calamity occurs that makes it impossible for you to accomodate the random dates.
Posted by KindaSparkly[/QUOTE]



I am just about to send out my STDs and I hadn't thought about plus ones and plane tickets for out of town guests. I have a couple OOT cousins in their twenties who I am inviting with plus ones. I was just going to address STD to them and then put the plus guest on the actual invitation. Now I'm wondering if I need to put this on STD???

Kate61487

I would definitely list the kids on the STD so parents know to plan accordingly.  By leaving the kids off the STD you're implying they won't be invited.  For the +1s it's not necessary, but considerate (especially for OOTers) to let them know early.  But if budget it a concern I'd leave it off local guests'.

amalama

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_addressing-save-the-dates-guests-kids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:67a0b9b1-4a9d-4863-9dd6-10788e898333Post:137c58b5-197b-4fbc-a7d7-c62dd6abbe81">Re: Addressing Save the Dates (guests, kids)</a>:
[QUOTE]Are the people getting +1's flying in for the wedding?  If they have to book tickets, I would try and include the guest on there so they can plan accordingly.  If it's a local guest, you are probably safer just listing one person just in case some sort of calamity occurs that makes it impossible for you to accomodate the random dates.
Posted by KindaSparkly[/QUOTE]

<div>Some of them would be flying, but only a couple of the one's flying are people that I think might actually want to bring a date. Generally our families come as a family (meaning cousins come with their parents) unless there is a long term SO. But we still want to give them the option because we are giving all of our friends the option of a date. I guess we'll go over the list and budget one more time and then make a decision if we can definitely include all the plus ones.</div>