I don't understand...

sucrets4

...why adults think it's okay to write on their FB "okay, I'm making some cuts later today...if you don't make it, sorry!"  And then later to update with "if you're reading this, you made the cut!  Congrats!"

YOU'RE 33 YEARS OLD, WTF??

mmdpm

Wow, hadn't seen that one.

sucrets4

This isn't even the first time that he's done it!

In general, I like reading his updates so I'd like to keep him as a friend, but I think this is the 2nd or 3rd time that he's done it.  I don't get it.

Nebb

For attention, my dear. Thats the only reason. They want people clamoring to be kept on as friends, so they feel good about themselves.

beatlesgirl25

Something tells me his friends who "made it" don't feel as fortunate as he thinks they should... sorry, but what a tool.

Nebb

I think it would be interesting to see how many friends he started with, and how many are still there. He most likely only knocked off 10, tops.

tlv204

I had a friend who did that, but he was more specific:

John Smith is in the process of defriending anyone whose status annoys him. This includes blindly partisan political crap, complaining about your emotional problems that are entirely juvenile, and any grammar problems that a three year old could avoid. So if you're reading this, congratulations: you haven't done any of the above since I was last on here.

Sorry for the C&Ping.

tlv204

Ha sorry it's huge, I'm too lazy to retype

sucrets4

Hmm, he has 437 now, not sure what it was before.

sucrets4

This is what he actually wrote:

gotta make some cuts today... I love you all, but I can not keep all of you happy. Please accept my apology. If you see no more posts from me, then you did not make it.

and then...

Made some cuts... sorry, it was you, not me... a couple I just could not tolerate, a couple I just could not recall why I knew you. Good-bye, maybe we will be frinds again someday.

Nebb

I think people dont realize you can HIDE people from your news feed, they become almost invisible to you once they cease to appear there.

tlv204

Question: If you defriend someone, do they get notified of said defriending? I don't think so, but would like to make sure before I go about friend spring cleaning. Without the obnoxious stati about it though.

sucrets4

I don't think so, tlv.

And yes, Nebb, I have 2 obnoxious co workers that would notice if I defriended them.  I can't stand their posts (or them, really), so I hid them.  It's so much more peaceful that way.

sucrets4

Actually, no, they don't, tlv.  Rach accidentally defriended me and I had no idea.

beatlesgirl25

Well, that was rather overly dramatic of him. The tone was like a reverse-GBCK. Question though: how did the cut people get the benefit of his explanation in the second post if they had already been cut?

mocha beans

Well that's obnoxious.

No, if you defriend someone they don't know about it until they try to get to your page.  I had a friend do that to me accidentally and I gave him shiit about it later.  It was funny.

tlv204

Thanks, good to know.

sunshine_day_dreams

TLV - I defriended a bunch of people a few months ago - mostly people I went to HS with and haven't spoken to since.  They didn't know about it... until I started showing up in their "People you may know".  Some of them actually sent messages asking why I defriended them.  Awk-ward.

Nebb

People dont get notifications you unfriend them, they may get suggestions to friend you later though if you share friends. Then they will know you deleted them.

sucrets4

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-understand-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:67d4d518-d487-4d9e-96c8-de7c043ad630Post:f334e6c8-74a7-4b5c-a29f-227445695b5c">Re: I don't understand...</a>:
[QUOTE]Well, that was rather overly dramatic of him. The tone was like a reverse-GBCK. Question though: how did the cut people get the benefit of his explanation in the second post if they had already been cut?
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

Oh, I know!  That's the first thing I thought of.  Stupid.

eastunder1

Facebook makes me hate people.  It just opens up the door to endless possibilities of being a douchebag.   These "I'm going to cut people UH OH" @sshats are almost (almost) as bad as the mellowdramatic "I've had enough of this, I am DONE"  "Oh my god worst day EVERRRRRR" people.  Just be upfront and set your status to "Please pay attention to me" instead.  At least then its transparent what you're after. 

sucrets4

I know, east.  I'm friends with someone else who has the most vague, passive aggressive posts EVER.  And she's in her 40s and has a kid in HS and one in MS.  I think her daughter's updates are more mature than hers.

AlexiaANDRobert

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-understand-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:67d4d518-d487-4d9e-96c8-de7c043ad630Post:e424fd5c-3e01-41e4-a89f-2530e7b33e4c">Re: I don't understand...</a>:
[QUOTE]For attention, my dear. Thats the only reason. They want people clamoring to be kept on as friends, so they feel good about themselves.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

I agree with this 100%, I have a friend who does this every once in a while.
If I feel my "friend" count getting too out of control or that I'm not really friends with people, I just delete.  I don't see the need to make an announcement.  So strange.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

One of my friends was apparently big on cleaning yesterday because he did the same thing. After donating 80 shirts and 15 pairs of pants to Goodwill, too.