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Screw today (LJ venting)

I've complained before about DH's company: the long hours, the low pay, the constant threat of termination, yadda, yadda, yadda. I was thrilled that we were going to be moving in another six weeks or so because it would mean a change for him.

Well, the change is coming sooner than that. He's one of just three people to get laid off today. He gets a whopping two weeks of severance, and can't really apply for a new position here since we're leaving soon. So money was already going to be tight, and then we lose at least a month of his pay. And the kicker is that those assholes knew we were leaving. They could have just not replaced him when he left. But they decided to give up six weeks of his work to save paying him for the last month, by kicking him out the door today.

He's frustrated but understanding about it--he thinks, "better me than my coworkers, I was leaving anyway". I'm fucking furious at them. On a more selfish note, I'm turning in my thesis today, I defend in another ten days, and this is the last thing I need. I know this also means no celebratory post-graduation trip. And I'm trying to figure out how I'm supposed to show up at the end-of-the-year festivities for all THREE of my activities tonight with a smile on my face. And I'm worried about the status of my own new job since there's some paperwork BS that is going on that could keep ME from starting on time. 

So yeah. This is me, sitting in my office, flipping the eff out. Screw today.

Re: Screw today (LJ venting)

  • I'm sorry....  That sucks.






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    Oh, gosh, Opal, that's horrible.  I hate your H's soon-to-be ex-company too.  Where are they?  I'll kick them in the shins.
  • That's really shiity, Opal.  Are you guys moving?  Is it possible for him to start job-hunting long-distance, now that he's got some (unwelcome) free time on his hands?
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  • Good ol' Watertown, MA, Mica. Don't think I haven't thought about what I'd like to do to that place right now.
  • Yeah, hlq, that's exactly what he'll be doing. He'd already been looking, but now he'll be able to devote more time to it, I guess. Undecided
  • Hugs Opal. You'll get through it. I promise. I suck at advice :(
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  • That sucks.  I'm really sorry to hear you're getting all of this dropped on your plate when you're so busy.

    But CONGRATS on finishing your thesis.
  • I'm so sorry, that definitely sucks and probably couldn't come at a worse time for you.  I guess the one positive is that he has much more time to get ready for the move and start looking for a new position.    
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  • Oh no that's awful! What jerks!!!!!!!!
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  • Opal, that totally sucks. I can sort of relate to what you are going through right now.

    Why are there so many companies out there that just don't give a sh!t about their employees when they are supposed to be their biggest asset? I don't get it especially in the economy today.
  • I'm so sorry, Opal.

    Your H sounds like a sweetheart, to put that spin on it.  He's a good guy and I'm sure he'll get another (better) job soon.  What a bunch of pricks.
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    Ugh, that's really terrible and I don't really think it's all that selfish of you to worry about this extra stress right before you defend. Like others said, maybe he will have a head start on the job hunt at least? It takes most places a few weeks to process applications anyway, so maybe they would want to interview right around the time you move.
  • Oh, man Opal, I'm sorry. That really sucks. I wish you didn't have to deal with all of that right now with so many other things to worry about.
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  • Opal, I live in H2O-town.  I'll march right over there on my lunch break and kick them for you!
  • I'm sorry Opal :(  That just plain sucks.  I know you'll get through this, but feel free to be mopey for today.
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    Oh Opal, I am so sorry.

    I truly understand what it feels like to have a H not working, but we have been very blessed and have been able to just "work" what we have.

    I know that at this very minute, it seems very horrible, I know. But try to stay positive and not let this bad news steal your joy! You have some great plans for tonight and you have a lot to celebrate. As I always say, "Don't let the devil steal your joy!! Laugh in his face!!"

    ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))
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  • Thanks for the sympathy, guys. I think the extra job-hunting time will probably do him a lot of good. He has a hard time working 10-12 hour days and then coming home and wanting to look for something else. Who doesn't?

    Ugh, and I've just realized that I'll have to show my place at that damn office anyway. I have my packages sent there because no one's home during the day, and there's one on the way right now. I'll do my best not to set something on fire while I'm there.
  • That's a whole lotta suck, Opal.

    I didn't know you were defending quite so soon.  That's awesome!!!!!!!!  I just passed this stupid other thing we have to do before we can defend this morning, so hopefully now my boss will let me schedule my actual defense.  For the time being, I am very excited for you!!!!!!!
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  • Thanks, Doc. At least this half of it will be over soon.
  • Opal, I'm sorry!  What jerks.  I hope he's able to find a new position soon in your soon-to-be new location!

    I'm adding Mr. Opal's employer to the list of d-bags I want to seek vengeance on.
  • I'm so sorry. :-( That is a shitty thing to do to him.
  • Oh my. Mr. Opal's ex boses need a swift kick in the sac. Someday you'll look back on all this and laugh? From your "ruling the science world" throne? Well, one can hope. Hugs to you!
  • Opal, that sucks donkey balls... I hope your H finds something soon.  Deep breaths, it will all work out.  Sending vibes and thoughts your way.
  • Opal, that's some BULLSHEEIT.
  • Aw, Opal, I'm so sorry. :( I totally understand feeling crappy today with news like that. {{HUGS}}

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  • I'm sorry opal. That is really shitty.
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