xp: For the marrieds, what would you do differently?

Lasairiona

In hindsight, what things would you change at your wedding if you had the power to? Is it just small details or were there large things that you wish could be done over?

JessAndTrav

I think I would have been more specific with my photographer with the 'must have' shots.
I think I would have not rushed myself so much in regard to trying to see everyone at the wedding. I was going so fast, I hardly remember details.

tlv204

I think the only things I would change are possibly get a different dress, or at least look at more first, and I definitely would have gotten video at least of the ceremony. I really wish I could watch our ceremony after the fact. 

Everything else I was really really happy about.

anna.oskar

I would have saved longer and paid a higher-end photog

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i would have planned it earlier so my mom could have been there.

lauralaur

There were a lot of small details that I would change, but I didn't know I wasn't going to like them until I got to the wedding and by that point there was nothing I could do about it so... There were just certain things that I didn't realize really didn't go until I saw it all together, in my head it all looked fabulous, but again, nothing I could really do about that.

I would have taken more pictures of H and myself. We didn't get a lot of pictures of the two of us and by the time we took pictures we were both exhausted, sweaty, and hot.

My mom told me that if she could change something about my wedding, she wouldn't have put blue toe nail polish with my fuschia shoes. Of all the things! And this coming from the woman who stressed to me repeatedly that shoes did not matter as no one would see them. And she also would have put something sparkly in my hair, and believe me the woman did try.

beatlesgirl25

I would have hired a different florist and DJ. But there's no way I could've anticipated the extent of their fuckups ahead of time, so it couldn't have been avoided. Everything else was wonderful.

saschaduran

I would not have had an ipod reception for the dancing part.
I would have taken a little zanax.  I was so emotional about my mom and dad not being there and overwhelmed that it was hard to take in the ceremony and beginning of the reception.  It was kind of a big blur.  I was so panicked that I didn't even let people in my suite while I was getting ready because I was on the verge of a panic attack.
I really wanted to be married, but the wedding part freaked me out.  I wanted to elope, but he has a big family and wanted a wedding so we compromised.

ggmae

I would have spent less money on it overall. It nearly drained our savings account. We knew beforehand that it would, but didn't understand how hard it would be for the months following the wedding. I wanted to elope and DH wanted a bigger wedding, so we met in the middle and had a wedding w/ 100 guests.

I would have taken pictures beforehand at my parents' house instead of at a park. It would have been easier for everyone. It would have also allowed for more pictures, since I missed out on a few important shots that I wanted.

I would have had a back-up plan for a mic, since our DJ forgot it. I would have hired a different DJ (or at least looked harder for one.)

I would have double-checked that the elders in my family would be seated up front during the ceremony. No one directed them there to go and they sat in the 2nd row, leaving 5 seats in the front row open.

thesuninherhead

Nothing, really. I might have got a couple more pictures of myself with my bridesmaids. I might have also not had that last glass of wine. Other than that, nothing at all.

shellydiane820

Wore my hair down.  I think I liked it better down, and maybe a little less make up.

MeaghanandMichael

I wish I had my photog get detail shots. I have almost nothing of the tent decor, raw bar, food, bar signs, or even of my e-ring. I LOVED her, but I honestly just forgot to tell her to get those shots specifically.

I wouldn't have had a cake. I didn't want one and my venue serves an amazing creme brulee instead. My H would have wanted one though, so I would be SOL on that count.

ring_pop

Nothing really. I can think of one or two things that would have been nice to have (better speakers, for one... people in the corners of the room complained that they couldn't hear), but there's really nothing I would have "done over".

MeaghanandMichael

FWUW I love your wedding hair Shelly!

shellydiane820

thanks   I liked it, but then when I saw my hair down recently, I liked it better.

ggmae

Shelly - I agree with Meg. Your hair was gorgeous! You have beautiful hair in general though, so you really can't go wrong!

sucrets4

shelly - are you talking about the photo shoot?

Honestly, I think that up-dos are more realistic for a wedding.  You're sweaty and gross by the end of the day.  I didn't want to have to even think about my hair.
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I would have gone to bed earlier the night before, but I had to do laundry and couldn't get started b/c my SIL was doing wash.  Grr.

ggmae

I wore my hair down and was happy with the way it held up. The curls actually fell throughout the day and I liked that look better. I love the low-dos, but I just look dumb with my hair up and went with it down.

ExpatPumpkin

I wouldn't have stressed to the point where I was sick and didn't have time for all the pictures I'd hoped to take before the ceremony...

I would have gone through with the Sunday brunch that I wanted...

danieliza1127

I would have table visits instead of just a receiving line.  There were a lot of people I never talked to again during the reception because we were just so busy running around and talking to people.

I would have chosen a different venue.  Mine was beautiful and I was caught up in it being the typical wedding that I'm used to, when in reality, my crowd probably would have loved a hog roast at an outdoor reception or something more casual.

aMrsin09

I would have stuck with our original plan to "elope" at the beach resort we had found.

Jaytee501

We did research photographers & paid a relatively high price (here in northern NJ near NYC)... but I would have interviewd/consulted more than 2 photogs, as we hired the 2nd one & almost 9 months later, I'm still trying to get over my anger and disappointment with the uninspired pictures!

I would tell MH to go with his gut instinct & not ask his brother-in-law to be a groomsman as he didn't even show up in time for pictures. He's in no pictures with the groomsmen but most importantly, he didn't care about the wedding.

Only have people in your bridal/groom's party that CARE.

lannerjarv

different dress
different dj
bigger guest list
photos before the ceremony (first look)
different maid of honor
no wedding planner

in all reality i'm sure that if i was to plan a wedding now it would be completely different.  colours and all.

CCBelle

I would have taken a sleeping pill the night before.  I was too excited to sleep past 3:30am!