The Most Pervasive Wedding Myth

Simply Fated

I hope the link works, I'm attempting this from my cell. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mobileweb/martasegalblock/themostpervasivewedding_b_2694627.html?ncidedlinkusaolp00000003

AJuliaNJ

Yup! It works! Great article! I've always thought a year was a ridiculous amount of time  I wonder where that "rule" came from?

Fancypantsamy

Seriously. I don't understand who would actually think a note would seem sincere a year after the fact. You're not writing a novel, you're writing four sentances and shoving it in an envelope. The year rule logically doesn't make sense, unless you don't care to convey real appreciation. 

Avion22

Aparently guests have a year after the wedding to give you a gift.  Which is dumb because anyone can get you any gift at any time for any reason.  But I guess this "one year" idea came out of getting wedding gifts a year after the wedding....which somehow turned into "you have a year to write your thank-you notes."

Seriously, thank-you notes are NOT that hard.  

rachelm13

As long as you keep a proper list of who gave what, and can divide up between you and H/w it shouldn't be a daunting task. We will be out of the country for the month following our wedding. (HM and then 2 weeks of work related travel). We are still bringing our Thank You cards so we can at least get started on some while traveling for work.

banana468

I almost want to post this on FB but it would be rather passive aggressive since we still don't have a TY note from DH's cousin who was married last JUNE.

GoodLuckBear14

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_the-most-pervasive-wedding-myth?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:68ee2851-8c86-4686-9f54-c22284586a41Post:84f732d3-5494-4fd5-b5cb-8afd2510102f">Re:The Most Pervasive Wedding Myth</a>:
[QUOTE]I almost want to post this on FB but it would be rather passive aggressive since we still don't have a TY note from DH's cousin who was married last JUNE.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

I'm still waiting for a TY note for a wedding gift sent last October (small wedding, not invited but sent a check and small gift) and one from a cousin who was married four years ago.

walgrrl

That is a great article!  Every bride and groom should read that.  I've heard from a lot of people who believe in the one year rule, but it never made sense to me.  At that point, why bother?  A year out from the wedding, most of your guests probably won't even remember what they got you!  And like it said in the article, many people will have gifts sent to you before the wedding, which means you will actually be able to start your thank-you notes before you even get married!

silver0319

Great article! My mom is still waiting for a thank you from a relative's wedding that was almost 10 years ago! I hope to be able to effectively use the divide and conquer strategy for writing thank you notes.

HuckSC

I would just like a Thank You note. It seems that I go to weddings and never get a note. I would much rather get a thank you note a year later than no note at all.

Benny618

My grandmother and her brothers were invited to a wedding of their cousins grandson. 8 months later they got thank you notes from the Bride and had no idea who the note was from. it took so long that they didn't even remember the wedding! Granted they are all late 80's, but rude!

Calypso1977

Aparently guests have a year after the wedding to give you a gift.

this too is a common myth.

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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_the-most-pervasive-wedding-myth?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:68ee2851-8c86-4686-9f54-c22284586a41Post:84f732d3-5494-4fd5-b5cb-8afd2510102f">Re:The Most Pervasive Wedding Myth</a>:
[QUOTE]I almost want to post this on FB but it would be rather passive aggressive since we still don't have a TY note from DH's cousin who was married last JUNE.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]

I did it.

I'm still waiting for a thank you from the fake wedding we bought a gift for last May.