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all this talk of gifts...

If someone came to your wedding and didn't give you a gift, would you stiff them at their wedding?  Or if someone gives you $100 (or $1000 )for a gift, would you give them the same amount for their wedding?

I probably wouldn't get a gift for someone who didn't get me anything.  Or maybe I would get them something ugly :)
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Re: all this talk of gifts...

  • You should give a gift you are comfortable with given your financial situation and your closeness to the couple.  

    That said... if I received no gift from someone, I would probably go registry item, not cash for their gift, and I might be a little less generous than H and I normally are with our friends who get married.  If I received an extremely generous gift (your $1000) giver - We would give normally, maybe a little higher (an extra $50 or so) than normal, but at this point we are not (and won't be for a good long time) in a position to reciprocate a $1000 wedding gift.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_this-talk-of-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:69ce892f-9c84-4fa9-b2f7-27a9f25f7d14Post:c79344a9-9293-48ab-8e89-31782e774e23">Re: all this talk of gifts...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I generally give what I can afford and feel comfortable giving.  Sometimes, if I have traveled a bit, the funds aren't there to give a large gift... but I always give something. Granted, I gave a couple a Visa gift card rather than a check once.  The groom had been convicted of check forgery in the past... I know it's the past and he paid his dues but  I was still skeeved about him having my bank account number.
    Posted by katelynbrian[/QUOTE]

    haha, could you imagine a wedding guest changing the check amount!!  That would be terrible.  Good idea on the visa gift card.
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  • haha, love your post. I could not imagine not giving a gift at a wedding, even if someone did not get me a gift. I would give a much less generous gift then I normally would. For example, if your personal gift giving norm is $200 for you and a date, then I would probably give someone that did not give a gift at my wedding $100. It would be tough to be generous if they gave NOTHING! Of course you do not need to reciprocate and give equal gifts to those that gave a lot, especially if it something that you cannot cover. If someone gave you $250 for you wedding, and now you have to go to theirs and you don't want to give $250, I would suggest giving cash and then a gift off their registry or something home made in addition to cash.
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