My fiance and I are paying for our own wedding, very small, keeping it to immediate family and close friends only. Our guest list is around 25. We live across the country from our families, so it is kind of a destination wedding for most people anyways. My mom said that it would be incredibly rude to have friends at a wedding and not invite her and my father's siblings, etc. She and my dad both come from large families, however, and including just the aunts and uncles from my side would add another 15+ people. Then we add my fiance's aunts and uncles and all of a sudden we have a 60+ person wedding (doesn't even include cousins) when we wanted it to be under 30. Hmmm. We're having a reception 4 months after the wedding back where our families are from, and my parents are paying for that. I figured we could just invite everyone then. Is that rude? Or we could invite aunts and uncles and hope they rsvp "no," but that is a gamble. I can't be the first person to wonder about this. How do you keep a small wedding small?