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Bone of Contention

Knottie_22381884Knottie_22381884
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I am an older bride on my third go 'round first PPD. My fiance and I have been living together for nearly four years. My mother insists that my invitations should request the guests not bother with gifts. I feel it is tacky even mentioning gifts at all and she has already gotten me a gift to present at the reception.

What would The Knotties do? invites are being printed and mailed this week
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  • Knottie_22382049Knottie_22382049 member
    You are right do not mention gifts. Even saying no gifts on the invite makes it sound like you were expecting them to come with gifts. 
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  • NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bone-of-contention?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:6a6996a2-1bc4-45e1-be60-60a30cb176efPost:20cf049b-964e-46ab-9241-fd83c6297d13">Re: Bone of Contention</a>:
    [QUOTE]No mention of gifts anywhere on the invitation. You're right, mamadukes is wrong.
    Posted by KindaSparkly[/QUOTE]

    Ditto
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  • peekaboo2011peekaboo2011 member
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    What do you mean by "first PPD"?
    I french with my man
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  • Knottie_22382102Knottie_22382102 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bone-of-contention?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6a6996a2-1bc4-45e1-be60-60a30cb176efPost:b51f5db8-86ed-499d-8ec5-23f8cde3f5d2">Bone of Contention</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am an older bride on my third go 'round first PPD. My fiance and I have been living together for nearly four years. My mother insists that my invitations should request the guests not bother with gifts. I feel it is tacky even mentioning gifts at all and she has already gotten me a gift to present at the reception. What would The Knotties do? invites are being printed and mailed this week
    Posted by EllaYoung[/QUOTE]

    Agreed. No mention of gifts. People are going to give you what they want to give you.
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  • SlothGoalsSlothGoals member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bone-of-contention?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6a6996a2-1bc4-45e1-be60-60a30cb176efPost:82fa3707-8692-441b-af1f-022dec84b2c7">Re: Bone of Contention</a>:
    [QUOTE]What do you mean by "first PPD"?
    Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

    <div>This.</div>
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  • Knottie_22381884Knottie_22381884
    In Response to Re:Bone of Contention:[QUOTE]What do you mean by quot;first PPDquot;? Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

    It's my first Pretty Princess Day, as in the first time I haven't eloped with my fiance and have invited people to share in our joy.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Even bringing up gifts means you expected them in the first place. You're doin' it up right, Ella.
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  • QueerFemmeQueerFemme member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bone-of-contention?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:6a6996a2-1bc4-45e1-be60-60a30cb176efPost:b64a0c12-7df3-435d-a9ef-421676a75bad">Re:Bone of Contention</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bone of Contention : Wait .... Are you already married? I'm lost here.
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

    I think OP means she has been married twice before, but they eloped and didn't have a big wedding.  This wedding, her third marriage, will be a big shindig.

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  • Knottie_22381884Knottie_22381884
    In Response to Re:Bone of Contention:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bone of Contention:In Response to Re:Bone of Contention : Wait .... Are you alread
    y married? I'm lost here.


    Posted by TXKristanI think OP means she has been married twice before, but they eloped and didn't have a big wedding.nbsp; This wedding, her third marriage, will be a big shindig. Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

    Thanks for clearing up the muddied waters for me. I do hereby promise I will refrain from trying to sound "cool" by using lingo and or jargon unnatural to my normal way of speaking.

    Apologies for any confusion I have caused.
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  • LoopysevenLoopyseven member
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    Other posters are right.  No mention of gifts at all on the invitations.  Keep any registry you may do (cause some people will bring gifts regardless and you don't want to end up with a bunch of chicken cookie jars - unless you do...) small and spread by word of mouth that the couple really just wants your presence as they start their life together, but are registered at XYZ store if you like.
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  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
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    you are right.

    but, if you are uncomfortable with gifts and/or truly dont need anything, it is perfectly polite to decline showers and opt to not register.
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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    Do not have a registry, and if anyone asks about it, let them know verbally you don't need any gift beyond their presence at the wedding. If people give you gifts anyway, theres nothing wrong with donating items go shelters, and money to charities quietly. Just make sure to properly thank people.
    Don't make me mobilize OffensiveKitten

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  • funandfrecklesfunandfreckles member
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    Third time's a charm?
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  • Knottie_22381884Knottie_22381884
    In Response to Re:Bone of Contention:[QUOTE]Third time's a charm? Posted by funandfreckles[/QUOTE]

    Yes. I just couldn't say no to his charm, wit, and obvious devotion to me and my daughter from my second marriage.
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