E on Attire-

Ghoti

Can I put a "what to wear" section on the website? If so, what do I put, It's not black tie formal, but it's not jeans casual. It is an outdoor wedding, but it's still semi/formal?

NotColloquial

Your invitations will be the best indication of how formal your wedding is. If you'd really like to, you can put "semiformal" on your wedding website.

Beyond that, you are being rude. Don't tell grown adults how to dress.

KellyRVT

Cocktail attire. Just don't put it on the invitations. 

annakb8

I wouldn't. People should be able to figure it out from the venue/invitation. And the people who can't figure it out probably wont pay attention to your attire instructions. Also, if you can't figure out how to describe the desired dress than you will probably just confuse people. Just save yourself the time and trouble and don't say anything about it.

pantherRN

Ditto Anna.

Ghoti

The venue is my FIL's backyard, and the invites are this-

Printed on linen. Does that make them formal or informal?

I can't describe it because I don't know exactly what each level of formality entails. I don't have to put it on my website, that's fine, but if/when people ask, what is it called if its like, khakis or slacks and button-ups or at least nice collared shirts?

Ghoti

Gotchya. Thanks!

ootmother2

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[QUOTE]I don't feel right telling my parents and FIL's what to wear so I can't imagine telling my entire guest list what to wear.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]


Really?  I always wear what my daughter tells me to wear.  I guess Im doing something wrong!:(:

Christine&Joshua

I've heard of girls putting an FAQ question on the website and having that as an FAQ.

Birdie1483

Ghoti, I like you but haven't you been around long enough to know this?

Ghoti

I've honestly always thought invites were a No, but websites were ok. I actually read that on another thread here today, to put it in the website, and noone corrected her so I wanted to be sure. 

Like Christine said, I've heard of it in a FAQ section? 

Summer2011Bride

My MOH put attire info on the invitation, but that's b/c hers is an outdoor wedding where guests will be sitting on cement blocks and she wanted them to know to dress comfortably for it. otherwise, I wouldn't really mention attire, unless the venue has a dress code. Guests can gather the formality from the invite.

NOLAbridealmost

Ghoti,  to answer your later question, I would say that your invites are more on the casual side; (they are very, very, cute btw) the silhouette, linen, colors. etc. just seem less formal to me.  

Formal is like the Crane's ecru cotton paper with the black embossing.  Very boring.  But very formal.

mica178

Ghoti -- you can have a FAQ section on your website that hints at appropriate attire ("It gets cold here on the lake, so please bring a shawl if you're wearing a sleeveless dress!"), but you really shouldn't blatantly tell people how to dress.  Allowing your guests to determine attire by the location and the formality of the wedding invitations (as well as spreading attire information by word-of-mouth) would be the right thing to do from an etiquette point-of-view.

Birdie1483

And I really don't mean to be snarky, so I apologize if this comes off this way. But personally I know I can find a million things to worry about and what my guests are wearing is pretty far down on my list. There's really nothing you can do about it and it won't ruin your day, so try not to worry too much about if weird uncle Bob is going to wear jeans. Because in the end, it won't matter*.


*I'm trying to take my own advice on a lot of wedding planning details right now.

Ghoti

Birdie, I'm more trying to be efficient, people keep asking me (or more often, FI) what to wear, and I don't know how to tell them besides "Not black tie formal, not jeans casual". I'm not worried about it, people can wear jeans if they want, but I don't want someone to feel out of place because FI told them it was casual so they showed up in shorts and a tank top when everyone else is a little more dressed up, if that makes sense. 

Ghoti

Thanks Nola! Here is is all packaged up, there are 2 cards, the RSVP and the Directions card inside the invite

I was going for "classy casual", but when I say that no-one but me knows what I'm talking about 

Birdie1483

Hmmm if that's the case then if people ask you or FI what they should wear, I would just say church clothes and let people make that what they will. Everyone kind of has a different take on what's appropriate, but I think as long as you leave it up to what they might think is appropriate in a situation, they'll be more comfortable with their choice.

Ghoti

Thanks Mica!! It should stay pretty warm, being June in NJ and all, so I'll leave it out of the FAQ's  

Thanks ladies

ootmother2

I love your invites, Ghoti!

btw, did you ever make up with your old pal agage on CB?

idle curiosity




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Ghoti

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[QUOTE]Hmmm if that's the case then if people ask you or FI what they should wear, I would just say church clothes and let people make that what they will. Everyone kind of has a different take on what's appropriate, but I think as long as you leave it up to what they might think is appropriate in a situation, they'll be more comfortable with their choice.
Posted by Birdie1483[/QUOTE]
Thanks Birdie :) 

Ghoti

*scratches head*

What was the deal with agage? 

mica178

switch a g with a p.

Ghoti

That's what I thought, the crazed Catholic right? I haven't spoken to her or anything. She back?

mica178

yup

Ghoti

Boooo.

I'm actually really interested in Catholicism, I may lurk over there a bit. And by lurk, I mean post. 

ootmother2

I think I'll have to buy a new dress for your wedding, ghotti

LBD doesn't sound quite right!

:P

ootmother2

yeah, she's back in spades! 

Read it sometime if you're super bored

Ghoti

You should. Don't wear jeans :P

ootmother2

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[QUOTE]You should. Don't wear jeans :P
Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

You think I'm not a clazzy broad?

My heart has been stabbed!

Ghoti

*snort*