Thinking about changing our wedding date

mrandmrschisum

I got engaged Dec 2010 and my fiance said he wanted to get married in 2011. Setting our date on Sep. 3  only gave us 8 months to prepare for our wedding. We have alot of diffrent family issues going on with our kids and his son is coming to live with us also. This is all very overwhelming and I think with 4 months to go we need to get our family in order first as well as finances before we scramble to have our wedding, I'm thinking of moving it to May 2012. what do you all think??

marinabreeze

To be honest, I think you have valid concerns, but this is a conversation you need to have with your FI.

Rethany

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[QUOTE]To be honest, I think you have valid concerns, but this is a conversation you need to have with your FI.
Posted by marinabreeze[/QUOTE]

I'd have to agree.  All great reasons to push it back but that's not a decision we can make for you.

sarbearbenson

I agree that you should discuss this with your FI first.  But four months does not seem like long enough to plan if you haven't started yet.  Giving yourself extra time will save you the stress.

Beverly8

As all the others said, this is a conversation that needs to be had with your FI and the sooner the better.

You have very good reasons for wanting to give yourselves a little more time before getting married.  Settling down as a family and gettings things in order and adjusting to a new life is definitly important to do before the wedding,

Good luck

em01092

It depends on so many things. If you were only thinking of having a low key, intimate affair, maybe you could go ahead. However if you were wanting something bigger, taking a step back to be sure you can afford your vision is a great idea. 

Sit down with your FI and talk about your priorities. Discuss budget, your vision for your wedding, and your guest list. 

ootmother2

Good that you're thinking about your priorities, getting settled in the family should come first.

Good luck!

mrandmrschisum

My FI and I have talked about it. We both feel we will come out better if we wait but he made a comment that he didnt want to dissapoint those in our wedding party because my ladies have paid for thier dresses and his men put deposits down on thier tuxedos. However, we have put half down on our venue, half on our photographer, I just got my dress. I believe that everyone in our wedding party loves us and will be understanding to our dilemma. We WILL have our wedding we just need to take care of our family first. Thank you all for your comments

mrshellem2012

Talk it over with FI. IMO why be so stressed out on one of the happiest days of your life? It is not necessary. Good luck joining the families!!

em01092

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_thinking-changing-wedding-date?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6b1c4b08-6bb7-48b2-9a74-dee8446ac9d0Post:9a447be0-ce0e-4189-8322-256d7c8b6d3b">Re: Thinking about changing our wedding date</a>:
[QUOTE]My FI and I have talked about it. We both feel we will come out better if we wait but he made a comment that he didnt want to dissapoint those in our wedding party <strong>because my ladies have paid for thier dresses and his men put deposits down on thier tuxedos</strong>. However, we have put half down on our venue, half on our photographer, I just got my dress. I believe that everyone in our wedding party loves us and will be understanding to our dilemma. We WILL have our wedding we just need to take care of our family first. Thank you all for your comments
Posted by mrandmrschisum[/QUOTE]

<div>The BMs can just keep their dresses. Hopefully they will still fit when the time rolls around. If one of them gets pregnant, I personally would offer to pay for a replacement dress, in case that one she bought prior might not work. </div><div>
</div><div>The tuxedo place may be more difficult...call the company and see if they will work with you. If not, I would cover the deposit costs next time around since the GMs will have lost that money if the company won't budge. </div><div>
</div><div>Your friends/family in your WP do love you and should be understanding as to your family situation. I would just suggest returning the favor and help them out when the time gets closer to your new date (if you do in fact move it), since they already shelled out some cash for you. </div><div>
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KentuckyKate

Sounds reasonable to me.