Just a vent...

joleri23

... about OTHER people's manners!

I emailed my save the dates last Friday after six months of deliberating on the guest list. My fiance's aunt wrote back, "Don't forget to send this to [random email address]!" ARGH. I am so sick of people inviting themselves and other people to our wedding. This makes three (so far - and I'm sure it will get worse as time goes on!). Why don't people understand that when we say family and close friends we mean it?

That is all. Enjoy your day!

joleri23

Oh, not to mention that my coworker was telling me yesterday how she was invited to her acquaintance's bridal shower but has yet to receive an invitation to the wedding.

I said, "Maybe they didn't have your correct address?"

She replied, "I received the bridal shower invite in the mail."

I said, "Maybe they are lazy and the invites haven't gone out yet?"

She replied, "The bridesmaids have gotten theirs. I really think I was only invited to the shower."

RUDE!

banana468

At least on the aunt thing, she's probably parenting you and doesn't get that the time to tell you what to do has passed.

kmmssg

I hope using email didn't open a huge can of worms for you.  When you mail STD's they can't be given to others.  When you email them you can have rude people forwarding  them all over the planet.  As you get emails like you got from  your aunt you need to respond and let them know your guest list is limited and so and so isn't invited.  Ignoring those emails may result in a lot of forwards.

Loopyseven

Ditto the other poster's e-mailng STD's can definitely cause problems with them being forwarded to people hwo are not on your guest list.  How does Aunt even know that X and Y weren't invited?  Did you put everyone in the "to" list and send a mass e-mail or is she just guessing?  I hope you usee a blind copy so everyone's e-mail wasn't out there for all to see.

libby2483

I know the feeling. We have had a friend ask to add a random plus one whom he is not dating, as well a couple add their adult children to their RSVP. Just be firm that you can't accommodate so and so if you don't want to add them. I agree that email STDs can open up a can of worms with forwarding and such so tread lightly.

jessicabessica

I would definitely respond to your FI's aunt (or have him respond) and say, "Aunt Passive-Aggressive-Noseypants, our guest list is sent, and we have sent save the dates to everyone on our list.  Thanks."  I wouldn't ignore it.  

That said, we did email save the dates and no one forwarded to univited guests (that we know of).  

joleri23

I honestly didn't think about people forwarding them until after I hit "send," and then had a brief flash of panic. But hey, if someone forwards it to someone else, that's their problem.

And also, people were inviting themselves and others before I even sent the email! It's bound to happen regardless, and I was prepared for it. Just wanted to complain a bit, is all.