In a nutshell, my dad likes to cause drama. This is a taste of what he has done: He lives in Florida (and I live in Ohio) so I only see him maybe once a year...whenever I can save up the money to go down to see him. For my college graduation last May, he did not show up (without telling me he wasn't coming). Basically he was mad because I got mani-pedi's with my mom the day before graduation and I wasn’t spending the whole day with him. Even though I told him that was the only thing my mom wanted to do with me to celebrate my graduation.
I just wanted to give you a feel for how is he to figure out a way to answer my question. I really do not want him to bring a date to my wedding. Not because I do not want him to have someone to spend time with (even though a good chuck of the wedding invites are his family too), but because he usually dates girls that are attention seeking. I really do not want to have pictures of his recent fling, especially since I would never have met her until the wedding since we live so far apart. I have a bad feeling that even if he is not serious about a girl he will just bring someone to try to upset my mom. (They have been divorced for over 15 years so obviously my mom could care less especially since he had been remarried until 4 years ago). I also know my dad and that whomever he would bring, would be a little pawn in some kind of look at me game. Is there a way I can let my dad know that I want him to feel comfortable, but not having some girl there that he is not serious about, and not causing drama? In addition, I do not want a girl that no one knows to feel uncomfortable sitting by herself during the ceremony. To be honest, my FI and I are not even sure if we can count on my dad to show up, especially since he pulled the no show at grad without saying anything first.
I love my dad and everything, but I do not want drama. Sorry I know this is long, I just need advice from people who are not bias and never met me or my family hahaha.