Groomsmen drama

slking08

So I have an issue and I really don't know how to handle it.
My fiancee jumped the gun on asking his buddies to be groomsmen and completely overlooked my two brothers (whom I am extremely close with). I'm really hurt by this, and our venue is small so I don't really want to make the bridal parties bigger (they are already double what I wanted). What do I do? I know it's totally out of the question to take back an invitation into the bridal party... but seriously what do I do?! My brother's are hurt by this and so am I.
This is literally the only stress I have as far as my wedding goes. PLEASE HELP!

hellerc1

If you want your brothers in your wedding ask them to stand on your side. Your FI is allowed to pick who he wishes as he did. If my brother was not marrying us he would be standing on my side.

kara811

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_groomsmen-drama?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6d96f3ad-26b5-4b4b-86ec-1a09b8410106Post:8d384966-447b-497b-aad3-cb94109fa101">Re: Groomsmen drama</a>:
[QUOTE]If you want your brothers in your wedding ask them to stand on your side. Your FI is allowed to pick who he wishes as he did. If my brother was not marrying us he would be standing on my side.
Posted by hellerc1[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Well said. </div><div>
</div><div>OP, you can't dictate your FI as to who will be in his side. That's his choice, if he had a sister, would you want to put her on your side just because she's his sister? The people in the WP are supposed to be the ones closest to you, and to your FI those are his friends. If you want your brothers to be in the WP, you can have them on your side. Or do you need any ushers? They can do that as well.  </div>

slking08

the thing is that it's tradition in my family. And yes, if he had sisters I would ask them to be in my party. Thats just what we do in our families. But thanks for the advice ladies, I guess the OCD in me can subside for a moment and deal with an uneven or crowded altar lol I like the idea of my brothers being on my side. I think it'll all work out!
thanks again

mkrupar

Ok, it may be tradition in YOUR family, but obviously not in his. It looks like you'll be ok having them on your side. Good for you!

And do you really have OCD? Or are you just throwing that out there for an adjective for being anal? I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt since you're new and explain something. People do not take kindly to people using actual medical diagnoses todescribe things like anal (OCD) or distracted (ADD) if the person does not actually have that diagnoses. It belittles the diagnosis and those that actually have that disease or disorder.

Good Luck!

thesequel

See if your brothers want to be readers or can escort grandparents in.

Your FI can choose whoever he wants!