Adults Only - Cousin Issue

uidancer

My FI and I are doing a destination wedding and prefer it to be adults-only. I would consider my cousins in college and out of college to be adults. The issue is that I have a part of the family that looks like this:
aunt
uncle
cousin (25 years old)
cousin (20 years old)
cousin (10 years old)

I'd hate to include 4 out of 5 family members but don't really want the 10 year old to go. How do I handle this?
Thanks!
Devon

Summer2011Bride

Although some people say splitting families is OK for local weddings, I would not do it for a DW. Many families or people in general who attend DW make a vacation out of it. I would hate to leave 1 out of my 3 kids at home or in the hotel room while I attended the wedding. If I were you, I would probably make an exception and invite the 10 year old or don't invite any of them.

arunkumar

Your aunt and uncle are not going to leave their 10 year old child at home alone. Who's going to watch the child if most of your family is at your wedding? I'd invite your cousin, or be prepared for your aunt and/or uncle to decline attending your wedding.

TKzilla

Yeah, if you want your aunt and uncle to come, you'll have to invite your little cousin. At ten years old, they should be able to understand the seriousness of the occasion but it wouldn't hurt to provide some other activities for him/her especially if they will be the only child there. Maybe sit down with your aunt, uncle and cousin and discuss openly with them how you feel, and take that opportunity to talk to your cousin about what kind of behavior you expect from him/her. Just don't expect the kid to waltz or anything like that. 

kaitlynmichelle

Invite the 10 year old.  I have a 10 year old brother, and he has been to a couple of weddings at a younger age and behaved very well.  It will probably cause the family to decline the invite if you don't invite him/her, or there will be hurt feelings.  

amorg334

You should invite the ten year old.  My brother is 10 and he was a many weddings and did beautifully.