Handwritten Thank yous???

dkscho07

So, small question....I have a chronic pain disorder that affects my joints, particularly those in my hands. That being said, I'm a little concerned about thank-you notes for my rather large guest list. As a rule, if I have a lot of letter to write for the same purpose I am usually forced to type them. However, I have heard a lot of people make a big fuss over recieving thank yous that are not HANDWRITTEN. I don't want guests who don't know the situation to percieve my typed thank yous as rude. They will all be personalized, just not scrawled by swollen fingers.

So my question is, if any of you were to receive a typed thank you, would you be offended?

nda_roxybabe

I'd be a little put off but I guess if it were truly personalized, I wouldn't mind as much. How many guest do you have? Could your FI help?

vsgal

I would be a little put off.  Have your H write them.  The gifts were to him as well.  You can also dictate them to a friend to write.

tldh

Is there some reason your FI cannot write them? (and messy handwriting is not an excuse)

gailpete

My initial reaction might be surprised, but if the typed note was one that was obviously written especially for me, I'd be OK with it.  However, if it said "(insert guest name here), thank you so much for the (gift name here)......"  I'd be pretty upset.

banana468

I have to echo tldh.  Why can't your FI write them?  It is his wedding too - at least for the wedding TY notes.

But for shower notes, if you honestly can't write them due to pain disorder then I think in this circumstance, it's OK to bend that etiquette rule as long as you sign each one by hand and make sure that the note itself is very personal.

dkscho07

The guest list is 300ish (plus or minus a few great aunts)...the issue with the fiance carpal tunnel. Not sure if this gets off as an excuse. :P

NcsuPsych

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Handwritten Thank yous??? : I like this idea, if your FI can not help.  Since your guest list is so large, perhaps some family members (mom? sisters?) could help as well.  However, if typing them is the absolute only option, do that and sign them by hand. <strong> I recently got a text message thank you from a very close friend, thanking me for the gift I sent to her and her husband.  I thought maybe she sent the text to let me know they received the gift but that was a couple months ago and I still haven't gotten a thank you in the mail. </strong> A typed thank you would have been better than a text/nothing.  Obviously I'm still hurt by this.
Posted by bree4305[/QUOTE]

I got a FB 'Thank You'. . .I agree, I'd rather have a typed TY over a texted/FB message.  Also, agreeing with other posters, is there a close friend that could help you out with the task?  Would it be possible to just do a couple at a time? 

Good Luck!

tenofcups4me

If there's really no way you or your husband can handwrite them, then I guess I'd type them. But I'd be extra-careful about personalizing them. I got a typewritten thank you from a cousin that I was ok with because I'd gotten her an actual wedding gift and she clearly referred to it. But my parents got her pretty generic thank you for cash and were annoyed.

And no way in hell would I ask a friend or family member to write your thank you notes. This is up to you and your FH to figure out and not any one else's responsibility in any way.

kaederose

I know a lot of people might dislike this solution, but if you're really worried about offending people, handwirte the ones for those who aren't familiar with your condition, and type the ones to people who are and will understand why it's typed.  Handsign ALL of them. 

Like others have warned, really make sure each one is personalized - mentions the gift or generosity, and how you plan to use it.  That way it's really clear that you didn't just change some blanks in a form letter.

mysticl

I see nothing wrong with typing a personal note.  I don't see how it is in any way better for you to dictate them to a friend.  Having a stranger (to your guests) write them for you is less personal to me than you taking the time to sit down and do them at a computer or typewriter. 

I have some pain issues too so a typed note from me would end up being more personal than a handwritten one because I would be trying to "get it over with" when I wrote where with typing I can last a lot longer and make the note longer. 

linguo42

I think you should go ahead and type them. Regardless of the method of getting ink on paper, you're still thanking your guests, and as long as they don't read like a form letter, I don't see why anybody has the right to be offended.

Heck, thank yous for 300 guests? Even if you didn't have a joint disorder, I could forgive you not handwriting them.