Question

Weezy56

Addie's post below made me think of something one of my girlfriends saw on Facebook a few months ago. It wasn't a sponsor type thing, but it was acquaintance of my friend who was asking for donations for a family member's funeral. She asked me what I thought about that and honestly I wasn't quite sure what to say. What do y'all think about that sort of thing? Does it being a funeral as opposed to a wedding make it any different? I'm really interested to hear what everyone has to say

AddieCake

One of my friends did that as well! Only to her family members, but then she b!tched every day on FB about how nobody was helping! I finally got frustrated and embarrassed for her and messaged her to say it was tacky to be soliciting people for money for this. She disagreed, saying family should WANT to help. Sigh.

lyndausvi

Well a couple choose to get married.  You can get married at the JOP for a few hundred dollars or less, the rest is just a party. 


You don't generally choose when you to die and the heirs do not do choose to be left with the expenses.  Your body does need to be buried or cremated.    There really  not choice in that.  

Depending on the circumstances I might be inclined to help out someone on that case.   

MrsGandthebeag

I wouldn't side eye that.  I was really surprised at the cost when my dad died.  Luckily we had the money to pay for it.  He was creamated but we wanted to have his body in a casket for the wake.  It cost $500 or more (can't quite remember now) just to "rent" a casket.  

Spunky414

I think it's still inappropriate, funerals don't need to be expensive. My grandfather passed away last month and just like with weddings it's all the nice to have things that add up. Even if someone needs to ask for assistance doing it on facebook or in any other public forum is 100000x more inappropriate. 

lyndausvi

That is why I said it depends on the circumstances. 

IMO, an entire family dying in a car accident is different than a 50 year old adult dying from a heart attack.  I may help out the family, but not the 50 year old. 


Although FB is never the place to ask for such things.


I also will say that the Virgin Islands is huge in helping people out in these types of situations.  Fundraises for people who were sick, injured or helping to cover funeral expenses was normal for us.  I didn't think twice about it.  It made for a nice community.      

StephJean83

My Godparents are donating their bodies to the local university. When my Godfather passed they had a memorial with just photos of him vs his body for viewing. They set it up that the university buries the bodies vs the family getting it in 50 years.