Informing OOT guests on our wedding date?

AngelaReneeClaire

My FI and I just confirmed our wedding date - we have a venue! 

So my question is: 

I have OOT realitives including my brother, grandparents, and a few great aunts and uncles. 

I'm planning on giving my brother and grandparents a call to let them know that we finally have a date set. Should I also call or e-mail the great aunts and uncles (whom I'm not as close to) since they're family? Or is waiting to inform them via STD just fine? 

I feel like such a noob. :P 

Thank you!

bunni727

I would call to clear the date with absolute must-have-there type family, which for me included my brother but not my grandparents (I love them, they just don't attend functions of any kind).

It should be okay to just send everyone else an STD about 6 months out.

lifeonthehill

I don't know what the right thing to do is because I am a noob as well haha.

But in my case! Anyone who has asked we have obviously told and the STD cards are going out somehere around the eight month mark to give plenty of notice for people traveling! We aren't reaching out to anyone.

Congrats on setting a date!

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I think a STD is just fine. That's what it's for, actually. If you called everyone OOT instead, then there wouldn't be as much of a need for a STD.

[Deleted User]

Just send a STD. That's exactly what they're for - giving OOT guests enough time to make plans. Of course, if someone mentions it, feel free to tell them the date/location/etc, but I don't think you need to send special emails to everyone.

One exception is, in my case, almost everyone in our bridal party is OOT. We told them as soon as we asked them to be a part of it, which was a bit before the STDs went out.

Kate61487

I'd defintiely let your VIPs know.  We cleared the date with our parents before booking and shared it with my brother, grandparents, and our bridal party immediately after booking (OOT and local alike).  Other aunts, uncles, friends, etc. we waited until STDs went out (or of course told them if they asked).  I don't know who you consider your VIPs, but whoever it includes I'd let them know right away regardless of where they live.

ETA: our parents very well may have shared the date with lots of people before STDs went out.  but I agree with PP that if you called everyone on your guest list there'd be no point to STDs

ftrmrsweatherdon

I'd probably tell your brother. Your parents will probably tell your grandparents.

Everyone else will either find out when they are talking to you (or your family) or they will wait for the save the date.

SB1512

Our VIPS are not out OOT but our families knew the date right after we decided.  I think it would be fine to let your brother and grandparents know about the date before sending an STD.  I don't see a need to make additional calls or emails to the great aunts and uncles though.

s-aries8990

You ony need to (and that's only if you want to) inform VIP's prior to sending STD's- immediate family/friends who are family- but everyone else can wait for STD's