Does color really matter?

VRL

I've read that if the MOB wears all white, it might be assumed she's trying to upstage the Bride - or if the MOB wears all black, it might be assumed she's not supportive of the wedding.

Now, I personally couldn't care less what my mother wears to my wedding as along as she's happy. But I also know she is *very* sensitive to other's opinions of her and her appearance.

Her absolute favorite color to wear is black, coupled with bold accessories. Would guests actually think that she's not supportive of my marriage if she wore an all black outfit (with bold accessories, of course)?

I know it would absolutely crush her if she heard someone mention something of the like on the day of the wedding.

Opinions? TIA!

theluckiest555

I would say no to the white, and yes to the black. Ditto what PP said about the accessories My MIL wore black to my wedding and nobody thought anything about it. I would definitely try to add some splash of color to the outfit, but other than that I say go for it.

LeiselEB

People used to say that black shouldn't be worn at weddings, but that is NOT the case anymore.

Black is perfectly acceptable, and I'd be surprised if anyone felt that she was unsupportive because of her attire.

[Deleted User]

I think attitude more than clothing color make people wonder if a MOG or MOB is happy about the wedding. If your mom is smiling and obviously thrilled about the day (as opposed to scowling and complaining), then I doubt people will think wearing a black dress means she's not supportive.

So, I see no problem with a black dress. I'd definitely say no to all white though.

baystateapple

My mother wore a dark purple top and coat with a long black skirt to my wedding.  I don't think anyone follows that whole "black is insupportive" thing.

White is still a big no, though.

VRL

Great, thanks everyone!

VRL

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[QUOTE]<strong>I think attitude more than clothing color make people wonder if a MOG or MOG is happy about the wedding.</strong> If your mom is smiling and obviously thrilled about the day (as opposed to scowling and complaining), then I doubt people will think wearing a black dress means she's not supportive. So, I see no problem with a black dress. I'd definitely say no to all white though.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

Very good point; I completely agree.

almost-a-bride

My mom wore black. She looked stunning!

kmmssg

I've worn black to 2 of our girls weddings and DH thought I looked pretty good.  I was supportive and happy and it showed in my face and my attitude.  If she would like to wear black then go for it.

wrdgirl

I am wondering how many people even know the reason why in a Western wedding other people besides the bride are not allowed to wear white.  It actually started as a trend and it stuck.  So it is not wrong for anyone else to wear white, it is just that people are used to this idea. 

With that said, black is not a bad color either.  And like you said you don't care what color she wears as long as she is happy so do what exacty what you said - let her be happy.  If your guests are going to say something then maybe you should consider the type of people you invite.  No one has any right to say anything especially to the wedding couple and their family.  They have all the right to leave a wedding if they don't feel it follows the "standard rule".  You invite them because you want to share this day with them, not for them to critique about your wedding and they need to remember that.

Good luck!