about thank you cards

Arturabeth

Hi ladies!

My husband and I got married at the end of june. One thing led to another as we got settled in our appartment, started school and such, and we haven't sent out our thank you cards yet. I feel horrible about this since my mom taugh me to write thank-yous for gifts ASAP.

We started talking about how we were going to do them and ran into some problems. We both have terrible handwriting and writing ofer 200 ty cards by hand would be crazy! Is it okay to print our message onto the cards? We have a printer that can handle that.

Another thing, is it okay to make a gerneric thank you for the gift and taking part in the wedding, or should we custimize every card? I have gotten printed generic thank you cards from weddings that were very nice and tastefuly done. Just wondering if that is considered acceptable.

crash2729

I think printing a generic message on the card is kind of a cop-out. 

If your going to print them at least make them personal.

RebeccaB88

Poor handwriting and 'we've been busy' aren't excuses for not thanking your guests for their generous gifts.  Sit your asses down (together), divide up the list, and bust them out ASAP. 

"Thank you so much for ____! We are using it for ____.  We so enjoyed seeing you at the wedding/we really missed seeing you at the wedding.  Love, Bride and Groom"

Short and sweet, personalized, and done.  Anything longer than 3 months and I seriously start side-eyeing the couple.  

jessicabessica

I would really make the effort to handwrite notes for all of the gifts you received.  I cannot imagine an occasion where pre-printed TY notes would be appropriate.

Writing over 200 notes by hand would not be crazy.  Divide them between you and your H (my H wrote TY notes to his guests, and I wrote them to mine) and do a certain number each night until they are done.  Write a couple on your lunch break.  I would be ok with printing the addresses on the envelopes or making address labels, if that makes it a bit less daunting.  

lauralaur

I've gotten generic thank you cards in the past that just said "thank you" on them and it left me wondering if the couple actually received my gift. Don't do it! When you are talking about printing, are you talking about printing a customized message to each guest and then signing your name? As in not typing "Thank you" but typing "Dear Aunt Sue, thank you so much for the blender! We love making smoothies for breakfast so it will get good use. It was great to see you at the wedding! Love, us." Because I think the latter would be fine.

Also, due to the number of thank yous I'm wondering if you're including those who attended but did not give a gift; if so, a thank you is not necessary. The reception is the thank you to your guests for attending the wedding, so it's not necessary to send a thank you note for attendance only.

banana468

If I waited over 4 months for a TY and then received a generic TY note I'd wonder why you bothered. Start writing and do a few every day.

JoanE2012

You really need to handwrite them.  Now.  If all those people gave you gifts, they at least deserve a personalized, handwritten thank you.

Calypso1977

over 200 TY's?  how many people were at your wedding????  or have you  not done shower thank yous either?

KellyBrian2013

I don't think 200 TYs is that hard to believe. We had pretty close to that to write, having received close to 100 cards with checks/cash on our wedding night alone. That said, I agree with everyone to get them out ASAP, handwrite, and make them personal. If they are handwritten and personalized, I can almost understand them taking so long. Printed on the computer and generic? Absolutely no reason it should have taken longer than a week or two to get them done.

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[QUOTE]<strong>I don't think 200 TYs is that hard to believe. We had pretty close to that to write, having received close to 100 cards with checks/cash on our wedding night alone.</strong> That said, I agree with everyone to get them out ASAP, handwrite, and make them personal. If they are handwritten and personalized, I can almost understand them taking so long. Printed on the computer and generic? Absolutely no reason it should have taken longer than a week or two to get them done.
Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I kinda do think it's hard to believe. I expect to write 100 for a 300-person wedding. Not every SINGLE person gets a thank you. Households are fine--if Mr. and Mrs. Smith sent a gift, that's one thank you, not two. This leads me to believe shower thank yous haven't gone out either OR OP is exaggerating. Either way, with 200 to write, I wouldn't have put it off this long. Start NOW, OP. And handwrite them.

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