Do i have to invite her?? But i hate her!!

Jiselaperez

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MyNameIsNot

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[QUOTE]Do i have to invite my future brother-in-laws girlfriend to my wedding? I cant STAND this girl! Ive tried being nice to her in the past, But everytime i would see her after, she would ignore me! She never says hi or bye. My fiance and i arent close to her, she barely speaks a word to him too! And whats worst is that family members of my fiance have told me how they notice that she makes faces when i walk into a room, and one drunken night my future brother in law told me all the bad things shes ever said about me. Im a liekable person so this is really bizarre for me. Im not going to remember to put her on the list, and my fiance hasnt mentioned anything about her either. We're funding out wedding and i dont want someone there who has no relationship with my fiance and I. And to top it off the last wedding we were at together she, with no exaggeration looked like a cheap hooker. I dont want her embarrassing me in front of my family. So my question is do i have to invite my future brother in laws girlfriend? Is that rude of me? We're also on a lilimted gueslist?  I need your help :(
Posted by Jiselaperez[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, you have to invite her.  </div>

sarah0725

Yes, you do have to invite her. What if she marries your FI's brother someday? Then you will really be in hot water with having a crappy relationship with her.

You probably won't have time to notice her on your wedding day. You're going to be too busy doing bride stuff and making goony eyes at your new husband. If she wants to sit in a corner and be a jerk, that's not your problem.

Nebb

Yes to every question, and for future reference try out spell check. Its a great feature.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Yes, you do. You have to invite the SO of everyone who's in a serious relationship/married/engaged.

It also sounds like you see her fairly often for someone you ahev "no relationship" with.

kristinalily

I had a fight with my sister a few years ago because she spilled a coke on my carpet. She's not invited to my wedding. I got mad at my dad once because he cut off my allowance when I was 12. so he's not invited either. OH, and my brother's girlfriend wore this hideous green shirt once...that did it for me, definitely cut her off of the invite list.

sarah0725

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Posted by Jiselaperez[/QUOTE]

Weak sauce.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Thanks for quoting, MNIN! That's helpful now that the OP has decided to run away crying.

Jiselaperez

wow...seems like theres a lot of bitter bettys on here...

luckyme502

Yes, you have to invite her.  I'm sorry that she doesn't like you, but some people in life won't like you, and you need to learn that it's okay.  Also, if she dresses like a cheap hooker at your wedding, it should not embarrass you, you didn't pick out her clothes for her, so it is reflection only on her. 

Jiselaperez

im new to this whole blog thing..so no i wouldnt say i ran off crying!

Nebb

Hah she called it a blog and everything.

sarah0725

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[QUOTE]wow...seems like theres a lot of bitter bettys on here...
Posted by Jiselaperez[/QUOTE]

Well, I don't like my FBIL's girlfriend either, but I'm inviting her, because that's what one does if one is polite.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]im new to this whole blog thing..so no i wouldnt say i ran off crying!
Posted by Jiselaperez[/QUOTE]

1. This is a message board, not a blog.

2. Then why did you delete? It makes it look like you didn't like what we had to say and got your pants in a twist over it. So you decided to ignore our advice (it IS proper etiquette to invite both halves of a couple). However, it would be nice if you proved us wrong.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Do i have to invite her?? But i hate her!! : Well, I don't like my FBIL's girlfriend either, but I'm inviting her, because that's what one does if one is polite.
Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]

I don't like my FSIL. Period. But I'm asking her to do a reading at my wedding. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-surprised.gif" border="0" alt="Surprised" title="Surprised" />

Jiselaperez

Thanks for the feedback! It was all very helpful.

MyNameIsNot

Holy Multiple Personalities.  

Jiselaperez

Its called sarcasm

leayn

we are inviting couples who are living together, are married or engaged, or who have been together for over a year (don't turn on me just yet!).  we had to get the number down somehow...we're paying for the wedding ourselves and are already at 150 guests now.....we really can't afford any extras because we both have a huge family, so we had draw the line somewhere. 

if you're close with the brother, regardless of your feelings for the gf you should probably bite it and invite her....can't hurt for you to be the bigger person.  if they haven't been together that long, she can suck it.  Oh and whatever she wears shouldn't embarrass you....just herself.  you're not the one dating her....i doubt people will blame you for her clothes.

goheels05

I can't take questions seriously from anyone who has Jizz in their screen name.