Stupid question: RSVPs

stina93446

I just got a wedding invite today and the rsvp card says "the favor of this reply is blah blah blah." There's no "yes" or "no" space. Do I just send it back? Or do I need to write "yes we're coming!" I feel really silly, but I am curious.

ootmother2

Most wedding invitations I receive are worded that way.

On your own stationery, write:

Mr. and Mrs. Stina

accept with pleasure (or decline with regret)

the kind invitation of Mr. and Mrs. Smith

for Saturday, the fifth of July

quotequeen

Is there an envelope included?

tenofcups4me

My response cards for my first wedding were like that -- just the line at the top and then blank cards.

OOT's wording is the traditional way of responding. We got a combination of responses like that and others that were much more casual (one of my best friends just wrote "Yes!") and everything in between. Just make sure that however you answer, you include your names and whether or not you're actually attending :-)  

JanoBean75

For reply cards, these are the closest to proper etiquette you can get. Emma is right -- years ago, before the convenient invention of reply cards, you'd take out your own stationery and reply formally.

OOT's wording is perfect!

Catwoman708

It's not a stupid question at all.  Formal manners just aren't very commonly used anymore, so the majority of people don't know these details. 

If the response card comes with an envelope, write a note on it and mail it back, especially if it's already stamped.  If it doesn't come with an envelope, send a note back on your own stationery.  If you don't have any, go get a pack of blank note cards, or any personal stationery.  (I just found a box of really cute cards at Half-price Bookstore, for under $5).

The wording of pp is the proper, traditional wording.  If it's a casual wedding, you could probably write something similar in your own words.  As long as you convey whether you are attending or not, in a polite manner, it will be fine.