make them stop...

msstephaniejoy

My mom passed away when I was 9 and two of her sisters have been giving me "suggestions"  on which extended family I should be invite (based on the fact that they will give good $present$ even if they don't come), how much I should spend on certain things, etc etc etc.  I'm appreciative that they want to help but it's like they're over-zealous in helping and want to plan the whole thing.

I just got engaged last Friday and we're not even planning for the wedding to be for 18-24 months!

How do I make them stop??? (or back off just a little...)

mkrupar

Bean-dip. Listen to what they have to say and then reply with, "those are all good suggestions, have you tried the bean dip?" or any other segway to a new topic. If you do not talk about the wedding they cannot converse with you about it.

sarah0725

mkrupar speaks the truth. Also, people are nutso when you first get engaged. In our first couple months, pretty much all of our relatives turned into Twilight Zone versions of themselves. Then they calmed down, thank goodness. So at least, you can take comfort in the fact that it's temporary.