Bridal Party Gifts

Cherylleann

My aunt, uncle and cousin are singing at our wedding.  They have requested to do this for free.  I was wondering if you had an idea as what to give them as a gift?  Should I do it as a whole or individually. (They are singing one song together.)

Beachy730

If they are only singing one song, you could just thank them in the program, and get each of them a corsage or bout to wear.  I don't think you need to get a gift other than that.

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I would definitely get them a little something to show how much you appreciate them singing for your wedding.

I think for your Aunt & Uncle you could go either way, get them a together gift and/or you could get them something seperately. What are their hobbies and interests? Maybe a gift card to a nice restaurant? A good bottle of wine?

For the cousin, I would just shop like it was his/her birthday or Christmas, again asking yourself what his/her hobbies and interests are. What does he/she enjoy? And then go from there.

Cherylleann

Thank you!

KentuckyKate

I had a cousin sing and a cousin play violin in my wedding, and I got them both these pocket watches engraved with their initials from TK when they were on sale for $19.95.  They loved them.

http://weddingshop.theknot.com/weddingwarehouse/ProductPage.aspx?pId=P2249%28KnotShop%29

emilyinchile

I'd probably get them each a little something - nothing expensive, but something like a bottle of wine, a CD of music they like, a favorite beauty product, etc. Something that shows your gratitude but doesn't go over the top or break the bank.

Beachy730

My thinking is that if they are only singing one song, its comparable to doing a reading.  So if you are giving all of your readers a gift, then get them a gift as well along the same lines.

If they are dong the whole ceremony I think that's different, and I would definitely get them a gift.  We had my aunt sing and a family friend played guitar for our Catholic ceremony.  We put $50 in a card for each and a bottle of wine. 

brooke.anne

I don't think that it is necessary to get them something but I think it would be a nice gesture. Just something small that shows that you appreciate them having a part in your wedding. 

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I get what you are saying. We also had a Catholic wedding and we gave each of our readers and gift bearers gifts. We also had bouts for all of them. Our cantor was someone the church recommended and we just paid her the $50 which is what she charged. Looking back, we probably should have given her either a bout or a little something. But I guess there is nothing we can do about it now.

PsyDet 2155

Ditto on the bout and corsage.  That's what I would do.

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]<strong>My thinking is that if they are only singing one song, its comparable to doing a reading.</strong>  So if you are giving all of your readers a gift, then get them a gift as well along the same lines. If they are dong the whole ceremony I think that's different, and I would definitely get them a gift.  We had my aunt sing and a family friend played guitar for our Catholic ceremony.  We put $50 in a card for each and a bottle of wine. 
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

I agree, and I think you should get your readers a little something, hence my suggestion.

sister2groom

If they are singing because THEY requested to, you really don't have to get them something huge at all, if you get them anything. But you HAVE to write them a wonderful thank you note (no matter how they sing). I played one piece in my own brother's wedding and I honestly can't even remember whether or not I got a corsage. I didn't get a gift, and couldn't care less (although I'm pretty easy going and my brother's given me tons of nice things over the years).

If you get the a gift, get them a small one, like a bottle of wine + something small for the cousin. If you go with a restaurant GC you kind of have to get enough to cover a whole meal, so you'd probably have to get a $50 one, and then a gift for your cousin and that seems like a lot for one song. I know if I were in your situation I would probably get them a box of cookies from this awesome semi-local cookie place in my area.

srkropf

Wine and/or resteraunt certificate are always great fall backs for these things

DramaGeek

My cousin and her husband played our wedding, 3 songs total.  We got them a gift card to a restaurant we know they like.

Beachy730

Good point Stage.  I guess I really didn't think about the planning or anything.  My soloist and guitarist are family friends and they made plans on their own to meet and practice and whatnot, so I don't actually know how much time they spent.  But we had given them a gift anyways since they did our full ceremony. 

OP take into  consideration how much time and rehearsal they are putting into it.  A nice bottle of wine always goes over well with me.  And maybe you could do a small giftcard for their child somewhere.