Bridesmaid dumped me

hoffse

Just sort of bummed here.  I got an email from one of my bridesmaids today saying she had to withdraw from the wedding because she was too busy to fulfill her obligations as a bridesmaid.  The only thing I've asked her to do is show up for the ceremony in the dress.  I told her (before this) that she didn't need to come to the rehearsal, shower, or even the reception if she was too busy.  She and I were roommates in law school for three years, and we both just started practicing a couple months ago.  I joined a mid-sized firm. She went biglaw, and I know she's really busy.  Still though - I can't help but be bummed.  I emailed her back and said it was fine, i understand being busy, etc.  I told her that she's still welcome as a guest and will be invited to both the wedding and shower.  Ugh, sorry I don't really have a question - I guess I'm just venting a little. 

mommy2my3

Aww I'm sorry. You seemed to be very gracious about her dropping out. I don't blame you for being bummed. I hope you feel better though!

misssunshine17

I think you definitely be bummed, but it sounds you're being understanding, so that's great. Maybe try to connect with her sometime soon so she knows there are no hard feelings. 

ChiGirl2013

That stinks that she backed out, and it stinks even more that she told you in an email, rather than face to face like a real friend should.  (Or at least over the phone if she doesn't live nearby.)  But kudos to you for being so understanding about it.  I hope you'll still see her as a guest on your big day.

samantha24p

I'm sorry. That sucks, but you handled it well.

jessicabessica

That sucks, sorry.  Not in biglaw either, but I have friends who are.  You know it's the hours, scheduling, and inability to say "no," not a reflection of how she feels about you.  I think you're doing the right thing by venting here and telling her that you'd love to have here there as a guest and stressing that she would have no obligations as a bridesmaid.