Fiance's dad recently got re-married. She has 3 grown sons.
Every year for Thanksgiving (it's this weekend in Canada) we usually see fiance's dad and new wife. This year fiance is going to be away, but I thought I'd see what his dad was doing anyways. (Looking back now it looks rude and like I'm inviting myself somewhere.)
So fiance writes in an email to his dad hat I wanted to know what him and his wife are doing. His reply: "We're having dinner at our house on Sunday. She can come if she wants."
I think that's a non-invite invite. If he wanted me to come, wouldn't he have e-mailed me? He has my e-mail address.
Fiance tells me to shut up - it's an invite and stop over-analyzing.
So I call fiance's dad today to thank him for the "invite" and ask him if I can bring dessert. He tells me neither of my fiance's siblings are going, it's just going to be his wife's kids... and now me... without my fiance.
I feel like I'm imposing now on her side of the family - especially when my fiance won't even be there.
Do I call back and say I won't be offended if they just want it to be her side of the family? Or is that rude?