How many doctors is too many?

planparty

Parents are both doctors, bride and groom are doctors (all medical MD).

Is this a strange invitation, names to be filled in properly.

Dr Dad Doctor and Dr Mom Doctor

invite you to the wedding of

Dr Daughter Doctor

to 

Dr Groom Doctor

 

I would not even consider not given the title to the bride even if Emily Post etc say no title for bride, while giving the groom his Dr title.

Somehow it seems a bit much, but still..... these are the titiles.

Calypso1977

do the moms use Dr. in social situations or do they prefer Dr. and Mrs.?

a sample could be:

Dr. and Mrs. John Smith (assuming she uses Mrs. in social situatiosn)

invite you to the wedding of their daughter,

Jane Elizabeth (you dont use a title here)

to Dr. Tom Jones

StephBeanWed61502

Check out the Crane website. They have a really comprehensive guide on what to do with titles.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

We didn't use titles for ourselves. So you could do:

Dr. Jane and Dr. Thomas Jones

(OR if they don't care about using both of their first names "The Doctors Thomas Jones")

request the honor of your presence at their marriage of their daughter

Elizabeth Anne

and

Robert John Smith

Calypso1977

some older females i know do prefer to go by Mrs.  not sure the age or preferences of OP's parents.    i agree - if i was a doctor, id use it, but some really like Mrs.

Peledreamsofrain

In Response to Re:How many doctors is too many?:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How many doctors is too many?:do the moms use Dr. in social situations or do they prefer Dr. and Mrs.? a sample could be: Dr. and Mrs. John Smith assuming she uses Mrs. in social situatiosn invite you to the wedding of their daughter, Jane Elizabeth you dont use a title here to Dr. Tom JonesPosted by Calypso1977Why would a woman not use her title of Dr in social settings?nbsp; Posted by HoorayForSoup[/QUOTE]

Yeah I was confused by this one too. She put in just as much hard work to earn the title.

ginadog

I thought it was
Drs. Mary and John Smith, not Dr. Mary and Dr. John Smith

Generally I've not seen titles in front of the bride and groom though.

That's a lot of doctors, way to go!

planparty

Just to confuse things the mom practices under her maiden name...

So...

Dr John Smith and Dr Laura Mom

invite you to the wedding of

Dr Sarah Surgeon

to 

Dr Mike Pediatrician

Would you think this is pretentious? Would not consider stripping bride of title if groom gets his.

Thank goodness the inlaws are not on the invitiation.... Judge and another doctor....

TaraKeeley

I don't think it's pretenious. It's a title, like Mr./Mrs., and a hard-earned one, at that. Use Dr. for everyone

LeiselEB

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[QUOTE]Parents are both doctors, bride and groom are doctors (all medical MD). Is this a strange invitation, names to be filled in properly. Dr Dad Doctor and Dr Mom Doctor invite you to the wedding of Dr Daughter Doctor to  Dr Groom Doctor   I would not even consider not given the title to the bride even if Emily Post etc say no title for bride, while giving the groom his Dr title. Somehow it seems a bit much, but still..... these are the titiles.
Posted by planparty[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>Do the parents have the same last name? If so, Crane suggests either:</div><div>The Doctors Smith</div><div>or</div><div>Doctor and Mrs. John Smith</div><div>or</div><div><strong>Doctor Mary Jones and Doctor John Smith</strong></div><div>
</div><div>
</div><div>I would skip titles altogether for the couple if you don't want to skip the bride's title. We didn't use titles in front of our names.</div><div>
</div><div>ETA: I just noticed you said your mom uses her maiden name... I bolded my change for that.</div><div>
</div><div><strong>Also, spell out Doctor every time.</strong></div>

Calypso1977

i would honestly ask your parents.  i think its great you are looking to make sure recognition for the hard work of earning Dr is given, but your parents may think differently on how they want their names and titles (if any) on here. 

again, she practices under her maiden name.  does she use her maiden name socially?  if not, then the name that should go on the invite is the one she uses socially. 

NOLAbridealmost

I wouldn't use the Dr. title for the bride and groom.

Just as you wouldn't say "Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents invite you to the wedding of their daughter Ms. Bride..." or "Together with their families, Ms. Bride...." I wouldn't say Doctors Mary and John Bridesparents invite you to the marriage of their daughter, Doctor Bride"

I dunno. Personal preference, I guess.  

mica178

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[QUOTE]I wouldn't use the Dr. title for the bride and groom. Just as you wouldn't say "Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents invite you to the wedding of their daughter Ms. Bride..." or "Together with their families, Ms. Bride...." I wouldn't say Doctors Mary and John Bridesparents invite you to the marriage of their daughter, Doctor Bride" I dunno. Personal preference, I guess.  
Posted by NOLAbridealmost[/QUOTE]

<div>H and I skipped the "doctor" from our titles.  Yes, we worked hard to get those degrees, but everyone who knows us knows we have them, and we didn't want the invitation to be overwhelmed by titles.</div><div>
</div><div>Also, it's my understanding that most brides do not have a title assuming their parents are hosting.</div>

anssett

This post makes me happy. I'm the only doctor (bride) but have 2 PhDs (a dual PhD program - I'm not that crazy) so FI and I joke that I loan him one and now we're both doctors. 

I have no idea how to do your invite. Good luck.

kks4471

I addressed an invitation to "Dr. Femalefirstname and Mr. Malefirstname Lastname" because that's what Crane's said to do.  She sent the RSVP card back as "Mr. and Mrs. Lastname".  It was her preference not to use "Dr.", not mine!

I like Leisel's wording for your parents, and I personally would skip your titles for your names.  That's just my two cents though!

LizM61409

1. I'm a doctor, I've only been a doctor for a little over 2 years and I already think it's REALLY WEIRD to see "Miss" or "Ms" in front of my name instead of "Dr" because I'm so used to it. Kinda like how it would be weird for you to be married for 2 years and then get something addressed to you as "Miss"

2. My FI is not a doctor. I think we'll leave titles off the invite, but I'm a little more concerned about how we'll be announced (at the end of the ceremony, entering the reception, etc). "Mr and Dr John Smith" sounds a little weird. I think we'll go with "introducing Dr. Jane and Mr. John Smith"

LeiselEB

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[QUOTE]This post makes me happy. I'm the only doctor (bride) but have 2 PhDs (a dual PhD program - I'm not that crazy) so FI and I joke that I loan him one and now we're both doctors.  I have no idea how to do your invite. Good luck.
Posted by anssett[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't know if you were thinking of doing this, but just in case anyone else is wondering: The title of "Doctor" for Ph.D.s is only used in academic settings, not socially. So a person with a PhD should not use the title Dr. or Doctor for wedding invtiations, or any other social stationery.</div>

megjones84

I am also a member of the doctor club and would be really insulted if my title was left off.  That being said, I don't feel like the bride and groom need titles for the invite.  We just used our names and no titles but at the wedding we are being announced and Mr. and Dr. since Mrs. will never be my official title.   Yay doctors!

shenzhentoby

Nope, I already only get to cheap bridal wedding dress wear my gorgeous wedding gown for one day, why would I want to make that time cheap bridal wedding dresses even shorter by only wearing it bridal gown wedding dresses during the hour long ceremony?

Peledreamsofrain

Theoretically Dr. is only supposed to be used in medical settings, but so many years of sacrafice and hard work go into getting that title that I've noticed a lot of people get seriously (and I mean seriously) offended if you leave it off. 

 I used to work a phone job, and I've had a number of *coughcough*blowhards*coughcough* people dress me down because I didn't call them doctor, even though I had no way of knowing ahead of time.  It was NOT a medical setting. 

I would ask your parents how they feel about it, and your fiance.  If they all say 'what else could you possibly call me?"  then you have your answer :P.

mica178

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[QUOTE]Theoretically Dr. is only supposed to be used in medical settings, but so many years of sacrafice and hard work go into getting that title that I've noticed a lot of people get seriously (and I mean seriously) offended if you leave it off.   I used to work a phone job, and I've had a number of *coughcough*blowhards*coughcough* people dress me down because I didn't call them doctor, even though I had no way of knowing ahead of time.  It was NOT a medical setting.  I would ask your parents how they feel about it, and your fiance.  If they all say 'what else could you possibly call me?"  then you have your answer :P.
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

<div>That's not true.  Medical doctors are called "Dr." in social situations in addition to medical settings.  PhDs are only called "Dr." in academic settings, although many PhDs are not aware of that.</div>

[Deleted User]

Although I am not a Dr. of any sort, I have to agree that on the invitations, if the parents of the bride are hosting, she does not get a title and for introductions, I think I would want to be introduced as Mr. & Mrs. Not to devalue the Dr. in any way, but the day isn't about your occupation, it's about becoming husband and wife.
 
I think the way I was raised has a lot to do with it. I was raised to be independent, but at the same time, I was raised to be a wife to my husband, and I put a lot of value into that. No matter how much work you put into your degree, you will put just as much, if not more work into your marriage. Think about it...

Just a personal opinion. As someone who got their BA and has no intention of ever going back to school, Kudos to you on all the degrees!

anssett

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How many doctors is too many? : I don't know if you were thinking of doing this, but just in case anyone else is wondering: The title of "Doctor" for Ph.D.s is only used in academic settings, not socially. So a person with a PhD should not use the title Dr. or Doctor for wedding invtiations, or any other social stationery.
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

<div>I'd honestly never heard this. I don't "expect" people to refer to me as Dr. in social settings (although many of my friends think it's awesome and call me Dr. first name). However, now that I did a bit of googling on the etiquette of formal Dr. titles I see some people agree with you, and some think it's ridiculous to call PhDs less worthy of the title they worked just as hard for. I can't think of a single time I've introduced MYSELF as Dr. Last Name, although other people introduce me that way. Hm... fascinating.</div>