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Shower Timing..too close to the wedding?

I am getting married Oct 9 and I'm not having any bridesmaids, etc.

My aunts want to throw me a shower but the first weekend that works is September 12.. Is that too close to my wedding? We were planning on keeping it small.

The date has two reasons. 1. my aunt has MS, and it's just too hot for her to do much before then. We just didn't get around to doing it before it heated up. 2. I only have two first cousins and neither can make it to my wedding.

The other issue is my 30th birthday is September 29th, and I was going to have a party September 18 (since I didn't want it close to my wedding).

Also, there are people I would invite to my birthday that I wasn't going to invite to my wedding (professional friends, etc). Does that seem too close and kind of weird?

I'm thinking about bailing on the birthday celebration and just having a big party on my 31st.

Re: Shower Timing..too close to the wedding?

  • Showers are usually about 2-4 weeks before the wedding I think so... you're fine.
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  • The shower date is fine.

    If it was me I'd skip the bday party. But I'm also an introvert. A shower and a wedding  would be MORE than enough me-me-me center of attention time. I don't think I'd even have enough energy to coax people into celebrating the day of my birth too. : )
  • I think it's a lovely gesture they are throwing you a shower.  It's not too close to your date - go have fun!
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  • it's fine. I've heard of showers being the weekend before the wedding. mine was less than a month before.

    but... I'd still want a birthday party. it's the 30th!!! I'd probably have it AFTER the wedding though, and maybe make it a birthday/housewarming party.
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  • The shower's not too close -- typically they're about a month before the wedding, give or take. But skip  the birthday party -- that's too much too close.
  • My bday was a week before my wedding so I skipped the b-day party this year.  That being said....it was my 29th bday.  I'd plan the bday party afterwards and keep your shower date.  Enjoy all the parties!
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  • Thanks everyone. That helps a lot.

    I might have a smaller bday party than I planned. I'm sort of worn out already from other things and I'd hate to go on my honeymoon and collapse in a heap.
  • I had my shower 4 days before my wedding, so I vote that that date is A-OK.
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