bachelor/bachelorette party question

TheShadyYvonne

Edited:

me again...lol

 

So the best man is planning the groom’s bachelor party - and he gave him a list...

 

One of my BM is planning my bachelorette party...and I gave her my list (included two of my good friends...who are also brides men in the wedding...so two guys standing on my side of the wedding party)

 

Both of them are married (one just got married a few weeks ago) I wanted to do something small...so I just gave my BM a list of my closest friends ( which includes the two guys ) and a few other people - so it’s a mixed group of m and f. 

 

Somehow...he's under the impression that the bachelor party and bachelorette parties are being divided into men and women...which is what they did for their wedding.  Since they are my friends...and not really his...I gave their names to the BM for the bachelorette party(the best man knows that..so he did not include them in the bachelor party)

 

My BM just sent out the info today about the bachelorette party (which I don’t think he's seen yet) as he's emailed me asking when the bachelor/bachelorette parties are so that he and his wife can plan accordingly to come.  I don’t really like her that much( she’ doesn’t really like me very much as she’s never really treated me very well,  and quite honestly I don’t want her there and neither do the other BMS ( including the one planning it) ..:|

 

What’s a polite way for me to relay that we're not splitting off into groups by sex?  The groom is doing whatever with his friends, and I’m doing whatever my bm has planned with my friends ( and...That doesn’t include his wife) nor do I need to include her?

TheShadyYvonne

damn  i mean..its only co-ed because most of my close friends are guys...its more guys than it is girls..

TheShadyYvonne

yes - hey are two separate parties...in different cities..even different months.. my closest friends just happen to be male.  

Knittibell

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bachelorbachelorette-party-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:757e09b8-c4bd-4bd5-8ddf-4f427694e103Post:dbb42888-3ec8-442f-87de-3ff46d358a2d">Re: bachelor/bachelorette party question</a>:
[QUOTE]Yes, but if the woman's husband is invited, she will know when it is, even if the bride "doesn't".
Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]

This. I think there's not really any way around it. I wouldn't worry about it too much, it's just one person, and you'll still have a great time!

jmayinc

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bachelorbachelorette-party-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:757e09b8-c4bd-4bd5-8ddf-4f427694e103Post:5b16924a-f0b2-4a8d-a6d8-49bd727da7c4">Re: bachelor/bachelorette party question</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: bachelor/bachelorette party question : This. I think there's not really any way around it. I wouldn't worry about it too much, it's just one person, and you'll still have a great time!
Posted by Knittibell[/QUOTE]
 I second that. I don't think she would make that much effect on your party. Just leave her be and enjoy your friends.

willywally5

You're pretty much stuck inviting her. You may be fortunate enough that she won't attend!

AJG456

How big is the party going to be?  My bachelorette only had my 6 closest friends.  Some other person I didn't know that well definitely would be noticed and if I didn't like them I think that would have affected my enjoyment of the evening...

I understand that hurt feelings could result and you'd have to decide if its worth the drama, but I'm not sure that the whole "social unit" thing necessarily applies to a party with/for the brides closest friends. Maybe thats just me?