HELP does Mom need to attend bridal shower??

meisia316

If my Mother in Law is hosting my bridal shower, is my own mother required to go? Would it be look terrible to the other guests if she was not present?

My mother and I are not close at all, and she's totally uninvolved in the wedding planning. She's not providing any financial contributions to us, and in addition, the bridal shower would be in a different state (where my in-laws live).

baystateapple

I think extending the invitation would be nice.  If she declines then it's out of your hands.

nhelene

Of course she doesn't have to go.  As for 'looking bad to the other guests' they'll realize that she lives out of state, and for all they know you could be having another shower.  They won't be worried at all.

On the other hand, it would be nice to at least invite her and let her decide whether or not to go.

Birdie1483

I would invite her but not worry too much about what other people might think if she doesn't show up. I would think your FMIL would understand the situation and not be offended. Most of all, you can't control your mother so if she doesn't come I would try not to worry about it too much. It doesn't reflect poorly on you.

danieliza1127

I don't think it would look bad if she didn't attend, especially because it's out of state for her.

Knittibell

I think you do need to send an invite, and then leave it up to her.

MISSCOURTNEY20

I would extend an invite, if you want her there, and leave it at that. It really doesn't seem that you want her there  though.

meisia316

Thanks for the advice, ladies I'll invite her and see what she says. Actually, I'm hoping that she will come, but I don't think she will unless she believes it's the "proper" thing to do.... I'll let her know it's at her discretion!

NillaWafer10

It won't be too bad if she isn't there, but I would at least invite her.  Maybe she would like nothing more than to be there for you.