BM hosting bridal shower- gift question

MyCousinVinny

Good evening ladies! I was hoping to get some help. One of my BM (and future SIL) was gracious enough to host my bridal shower this past weekend. My question is- should I get her a separate gift aside from the BM gifts to give her now or should I include a little something extra when I give my BP gifts? I feel like if I don't give it now, she may feel like I forgot about her. But the wedding is in 6 weeks so I'm not sure if etiquette would allow that much time to pass with no gift. Any suggestions would be so helpful! Thank you in advance!

HandBanana

I would write a nice thank you and get her a small gift. I would also give it to her privately and not when you do the BMs.gifts. It might come off as some weird favoritism.

MyNameIsNot

Etiquette doesn't require a thank you gift.  Send her a thank you note immediately for the shower.  If you want to get her a thank you gift, now or later is fine.  If you decide to include it with her BM gift, I would mention the shower in a note thanking her for being a BM at the wedding.  

ootmother2

Send her a thank you note right after the shower.  If you want to give a gift, make it small,. such as a pretty plant or candle

Nickie431

I was taught that a hostess of this nature should be given a thank-you gift.  Invitations, refreshments, favors, and such can add up quickly, not to mention if  a venue is rented, so I think a token of apprecation along with the thank-you note is appropriate.  I was given two showers in one weekend (so my OOT mom and grandma coulda ttend both--it ended up being a bit much!).  One was hosted by BMs for friends, the other by DH's two aunts for his relatives.  I sent all four hostesses a small flower arrangement immediately following.  Though it was nothing grand, they were all thrilled to have flowers delivered.  The sooner the better, IMO, as giving her an additional something at the same time as the other BMs doesn't seem distinct enough to recognize the effort and expense she undertook.

ghowlett

I second the flower delivery idea - along with a nice thank you note.