I was telling him about how it is considered rude to get married at the courthouse, and then a few months or a year later to have what you call a "real" wedding, with the dress and first dance and another ceremony. I told him that it was rude because the couples' family and friends should be there for when they actually get married, not when they put on a play that doesn't mean anything.
He says that there is nothing wrong with it, because if you consider the PPD to be the "real" wedding, then your family and friends aren't missing out on anything.
I told him that people should just be adults and make the decision that works. If they need to get married right away and decide on the courthouse, then that's their wedding, boom, done. And if having their friends and family there and all of the traditional stuff is important, then they should wait until they can swing it.
He says there's no reason they can't have both, and that I'm creating unnecessary consequences.
What do you think?
Note, this isn't on the table for us, I'm just trying to figure out if there's a way to convince him that I'm right.
