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His Family dont dance!?

OK so I am wondering what to do about the reception...we are having a dj and dancing (not the entire night but for at least a portion of it) and his family do not dance. He had never heard of hiring a DJ for a reception either! I'm wondering if this will be awkward and how it should be handled. After all this is what I want and I feel like I shouldn't be worried about having to properly entertain people according to their likes....?

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    I agree with PP's, but I get where your coming from. I have fears of everyone just sitting around and staring at the dance floor at my reception. lol
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_his-family-dont-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:76c9913e-4e1f-48cf-b9ca-4ed541871a4aPost:9478c4f8-8e46-4814-ac78-f1274c508379">Re: His Family dont dance!?</a>:
    [QUOTE]If his family don't dance, then they're no family of yours.
    Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_his-family-dont-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:76c9913e-4e1f-48cf-b9ca-4ed541871a4aPost:a0516fbe-3917-4656-aa05-f93134f14121">His Family dont dance!?</a>:
    [QUOTE]OK so I am wondering what to do about the reception...we are having a dj and dancing (not the entire night but for at least a portion of it) and his family do not dance. He had never heard of hiring a DJ for a reception either! I'm wondering if this will be awkward and how it should be handled. <strong>After all this is what I want and I feel like I shouldn't be worried about having to properly entertain people according to their likes....?
    </strong>Posted by sofiaj25[/QUOTE]

    The first definition of the word "host" in the dictionary:
    <strong><font size="3"><span class="hw">host<sup> 1</sup></span></font></strong> <span class="pron">(h<img src="http://img.tfd.com/hm/GIF/omacr.gif" alt="" align="absBottom" />st)</span> <div class="pseg"><em>n.</em> <div class="ds-list"><strong>1. </strong>One who receives or <strong>entertains</strong> guests in a social or official capacity.

    This is to say that yes, you should be worried about having to properly entertain people according to their likes.  That is what a gracious host does.  Yes, you can have dancing, but yes you should also try to provide an environment that your future in-laws will also enjoy.</div></div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_his-family-dont-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:76c9913e-4e1f-48cf-b9ca-4ed541871a4aPost:71f7122d-a6d6-4bb9-83b9-5526a8a057bd">Re: His Family dont dance!?</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>His family don't dance? Do they also not rock and roll? When evening comes around and it's time to go to town, where does your FI go to rock and roll?</strong> Seriously: if his family doesn't dance, they'll be fine mingling with other guests, catching up with other family and friends, etc, things that non-dancing guests do at weddings (Regardless of if there's actually dancing or not). And ditto PP, just because you want people to dance (Your family, his family, friends, whatever), doesn't mean they will.
    Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]

    I spewed tea all on my computer after reading this, so funny!

    And yes I agree with people that they will be fine just hanging out and talking to other friends and family. I was recently at a wedding where FI and I didn't dance, and we had a great time just catching up with friends we hadn't seen in a while.
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    If his family don't dance, then they're no family of yours.
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    Seriously though, they will find ways to entertain themselves. They will probably just mingle and have a wonderful time.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_his-family-dont-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:76c9913e-4e1f-48cf-b9ca-4ed541871a4aPost:9478c4f8-8e46-4814-ac78-f1274c508379">Re: His Family dont dance!?</a>:
    [QUOTE]If his family don't dance, then they're no family of yours.
    Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]
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    His family don't dance? Do they also not rock and roll?

    When evening comes around and it's time to go to town, where does your FI go to rock and roll?


    Seriously: if his family doesn't dance, they'll be fine mingling with other guests, catching up with other family and friends, etc, things that non-dancing guests do at weddings (Regardless of if there's actually dancing or not).

    And ditto PP, just because you want people to dance (Your family, his family, friends, whatever), doesn't mean they will.


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    We didn't have dancing at our wedding. Neither of our families dance, and neither do our friends. 

    Even though nobody danced (we didn't even have a first dance), everyone still had a great time. People chatted, drank, had lots to eat, etc. Nearly everyone stayed until the end of the reception.

    If you want to dance, dance. If his family doesn't want to dance, they won't. They'll talk to each other. It will all be fine.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_his-family-dont-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:76c9913e-4e1f-48cf-b9ca-4ed541871a4aPost:71f7122d-a6d6-4bb9-83b9-5526a8a057bd">Re: His Family dont dance!?</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>His family don't dance? Do they also not rock and roll?</strong> When evening comes around and it's time to go to town, where does your FI go to rock and roll? Seriously: if his family doesn't dance, they'll be fine mingling with other guests, catching up with other family and friends, etc, things that non-dancing guests do at weddings (Regardless of if there's actually dancing or not). And ditto PP, just because you want people to dance (Your family, his family, friends, whatever), doesn't mean they will.
    Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]
    Damn, you beat me to it!

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    Haha. I love this thread. These songs will be stuck in my head all night now.
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    Is it a religious thing?  The thing about him never having heard of hiring a DJ for a wedding makes me wonder.  If they have a religious aversion to dancing, you might need to do some quick talking to make it all work out.
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