Address on Envelopes??

Daizy106

So I am creating my own mailing labels, and I have 2 questions as to how the envelope for the Save the Dates should be addressed to some of the people that are not married. So obviously the couples that are married the lables would read: "Mr. & Mrs. Smith" right? if they are not married but live together do I list their names as: Jane Smith & John Adams or Jane Smith & Guest?

If its just Save the Dates and not the invitation is it ok to just address the one person, I am friends with Jane but do not know her boyfriend too well but I know that she will obviously be bringing her boyfriend to accompnay. JUst want to make sure I address everything properly! thank you ladies

Jen4948

If you are inviting two people as a couple who have different last names, whether they are married or not, and you know them both, I'd write "Ms. Jane Smith/Mr. John Doe" on their envelope. 

Of course, if Jane Smith is married, engaged, or living with John Doe, you should send the save-the-date to "Ms. Jane Smith/Mr. John Doe" or "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith" depending on what form of address they use.

If you know only one of them, I'd write "Ms. Jane Smith" without "and guest."  It gives you the time, and Jane Smith, to determine whom she wants to bring.  Then later, you can send an invitation to "Ms. Jane Smith/Mr. John Doe" when you know whom she wants to bring and if you can host that other person as well.

OliveOilsMom

If you know the name of the SO, you should put that persons name on there.  The married couple example you gave was correct.  For unmarried couples living together you will put there names on separates lines, with no "and" - this implies marriage.  For example:

Jane Smith
John Doe

For the STDs you do not need to put "and guest" for truly single guests.  But if they have a SO, you should put that person on the STD.  If they happen to break up before the wedding, I don't think the SO you do not know will still expect to be invited to the wedding.  You may also list the person you know better first.  And if you are giving truly single guests a plus one for the wedding, on the invitation is where you can add the "and guest"

Kate61487

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[QUOTE]If you know the name of the SO, you should put that persons name on there.  The married couple example you gave was correct.  For unmarried couples living together you will put there names on separates lines, with no "and" - this implies marriage.  For example: Jane Smith John Doe For the STDs you do not need to put "and guest" for truly single guests.  But if they have a SO, you should put that person on the STD.  If they happen to break up before the wedding, I don't think the SO you do not know will still expect to be invited to the wedding.  You may also list the person you know better first.  And if you are giving truly single guests a plus one for the wedding, on the invitation is where you can add the "and guest"
Posted by OliveOilsMom[/QUOTE]

ditto all of this.  Also, I'd re-think using labels.  Hand addressing doesn't take that long, or print directly on the envelope (you can do this in Word with a mail merge, just like if you were printing labels).  labels just make it feel like a mass-mailing, like junk mail. 

Daizy106

OK- another question I just thought of- if there is a couple that is not married but dating and don't live together- i only address is to the person I am friends with right?
SO Jack and Jill are dating, but my friend Jill doesn't live with Jack so I only address the invitation to Jill Smith & Guest and the Save the Date addressed to Jill Smith?

Kate61487

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[QUOTE]OK- another question I just thought of- if there is a couple that is not married but dating and don't live together- i only address is to the person I am friends with right? SO Jack and Jill are dating, but my friend Jill doesn't live with Jack so I only address the invitation to Jill Smith & Guest and the Save the Date addressed to Jill Smith?
Posted by Daizy106[/QUOTE]

no, still address to Jill Smith / Jack Brown (on separate lines).  an "& guest" is only for truly single people that you are allowing to bring a guest (which means it could be a date or their brother or a friend).  If someone has a boyfriend or girlfriend they need to be invited by name. 

Peledreamsofrain

Ditto to Kate's post.  List both of their names, but you can send it to the person's address that you are closest to.  They will make sure that the girlfriend/boyfriend gets the information.  For example, we had a cousin who had a girlfriend.  So we addressed it:

Mr. John Doe
Ms. Jane Smith

and sent it to John Doe's address.

nlott03

We should be sending our STD when the next two weeks.  For couples who have +1's that are NOT engaged/married, we are just putting the name of the person we are actually inviting (i.e. John Smith).  For our friend who just got engaged 4 days ago, his envelope will say Adam Brown and Megan Williams (for example).

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]We should be sending our STD when the next two weeks.  For couples who have +1's that are NOT engaged/married, we are just putting the name of the person we are actually inviting (i.e. John Smith).  For our friend who just got engaged 4 days ago, his envelope will say Adam Brown and Megan Williams (for example).
Posted by nlott03[/QUOTE]

Etiquette-wise, you should not have "and" between the engaged couple's names. They are not yet married, which is what the "and" indicates.

Also, +1's are for truly single guests. Boyfriends and girlfriends are not +1's, they are significant others, and they should have their names expressly written on the STDs and the invitations.

nlott03

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Address on Envelopes?? : Etiquette-wise, you should not have "and" between the engaged couple's names. They are not yet married, which is what the "and" indicates. Also, +1's are for truly single guests. Boyfriends and girlfriends are not +1's, they are significant others, and they should have their names expressly written on the STDs and the invitations.
Posted by KellyBrian2013[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Thanks for the info/correction!! I'll have to remember this when we start to address our envelopes</div>

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Address on Envelopes?? : Thanks for the info/correction!! I'll have to remember this when we start to address our envelopes
Posted by nlott03[/QUOTE]

Glad to help :)