October is my favorite month, both for the fall colors and the weather. My FI loves October too, so even before we got engaged, we always knew we'd get married in October.
Now that we actually are engaged, we're getting some push-back on the date.
We have three close friends who work at the Jaycees' haunted house every October. They've been doing this for several years and look forward to it every year. It's a big part of their lives. They don't have assigned parts; it's mostly "show up in this area tonight and scare people". I've worked there before, and it was never an issue to get a night off because they usually had an overage of actors and could easily fill my spot. I figured, with enough notice (as in, a year), they could request my wedding date off.
When we announced our wedding date, however, we heard a lot of, "Why are you doing this to us? Why didn't you take this into consideration? You're forcing us to choose between the haunted house and your wedding - that's not fair. You should have picked a different month; you know we're always busy in October."
I feel pretty bad. We haven't reserved anything yet, but I don't want to move my wedding date to another month. These three people are important to me, and I can't imagine not having them there, but I also feel like they can request ONE night off in the several years they've been there. I'm not asking them to miss the entire season; I'm asking for one night. Then again, that makes me feel like I'm being all, "This is MY wedding," and I don't want to be a bridezilla.
Should I change the date? Am I being selfish? Are they being selfish? I don't know what to think anymore. I keep getting conflicting opinions from everyone involved.