a question about when to write the thank you note for this...

rebarobert2012

My bridal shower is April 29th.  My mom and my fiance's mom are co-hosting it.  My aunt asked my mom if she could help with the decorations, and my mom said that would be great.  (My aunt is awesome at decorating.)

I guess that my aunt sent the decorations to my mom, and my mom said they are lovely.  It's unlikely that I will see the decorations until the day of the shower because my mom has them.   My mom told me that I should write my aunt a thank you card for the decorations now.  I would feel more comfortable writing the thank you after the shower when I've actually seen the decorations.  My mom doesn't think I should wait.

What should I do?  I don't want my aunt to think I don't appreciate the decorations, but I feel like I should actually see the decorations in order to write a proper thank you.

Thanks for your help.

redheadfsu

I would  email her and say thank you for sending the decorations and that you can't wait to see them. Then after the shower write a traditional thank you.

Maggie0829

I think it would be perfectly fine to wait until after your shower and you have had a chance to see the decorations all put up.  By waiting you will be able to write a more detailed thank you note and pin point which decorations you liked the best.

notyetavet

You could write a thank you note now and say that you appreciate her thoughtfulness and you can't wait to see the decorations at the shower. Then you can tell her how great the decorations are at the shower (if she will be there) or call her afterward.

Bonzo2011

This is one thank you note where I would wait. What would you be able to say right now anyway? "thank you for the decorations, I hear from Mom that they are lovely." I think you can write a much more personal note after the shower, when you have seen and appreciated the decorations. If your aunt is expecting some sort of acknowledgement that the decorations arrived, maybe call her and tell her you can't wait to see them up at the shower.

Habs2Hart

I like Red's train of thought.  An informal thanks right now and then formal after the wedding.

LDYGTR13

I like where Red's going with this. Something informal now would be sweet and then something more formal later on is a good plan.

sweetcanadian1979

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[QUOTE]I would  email her and say thank you for sending the decorations and that you can't wait to see them. Then after the shower write a traditional thank you.
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