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Friend's Ellusive Boyfriend

I'm in a bit of a conundrum...

I have a good friend (we'll call her D) who has been dating her boyfriend (A) for close to two years.  Over the course of their relationship there have been numerous issues, some that I couldn't even fathom, that definetely rock the boat and cause tears.

I have been friends with D for over four years and love her to death.  Because of this everytime she calls and gives me very detailed accounts of what A has done/said I always remind her that she is far too good for him and there are guys who would treat her like she should be.  Regardless, she does not listen and stays with him.  I realize that it is her life, not mine.  What she has done though is tell A everything I tell her and basically quotes me to tell him he needs to act better.  Obviously, this has caused A to HIGHLY dislike me.

The kicker... although they have been dating for some time and live a mere 30 minutes away I have never once met him.  He is very antisocial, with me at least, and always has some excuse when we try to plan for us all to get together. 

Long story short- Can I invite my friend without a +1?  We are really having to trim down our guest list due to size restraints of the venue, not budget.  I only want people there that really matter.  She has already made comment that A won't ask off for work that day or the day after (my logic is if he has to work early that day it will be an excuse to leave early or not come).  Also I can see him RSVPing yes and being a no show.

I realize this may cause upsetment with my friend and possibly her not even attending.  I just do not want to in essense waste a spot on my list for someone of this guy's level of importance.

Thank you :)
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