Do we have to invite them?

emily.ayala

We have a few couples that we are friends with, but they are by no means close friends. We hardly ever see them or talk to them and if that was all there was to it, I honestly don't think I would invite them to the wedding.

However, they invited us to their respective weddings (which surprised me) in the past couple of years. So, that being the case, are we obligated to invite them to our wedding?

I feel like we should invite them, but that means I would most likely have to cut out other guests that I would rather invite.

I'd appreciate any thoughts on this.

sarah0725

Nope, wedding invitations don't have to be reciprocal.

LesaBear

If someone invites you to their wedding you are not obligated to reciprocate an invite.

jasmineh7777

You are under no obligation to invite them. I would suggest not talking about the wedding with them if you are not planning on inviting them.

luckyme502

No, you don't have to invite them.  We are having a really small wedding and our thought process is friends have come and gone from our lives, so we are each inviting two friends w/ families to the wedding and these are friends that have been with us for years (more than 10).    Everyone else is family.

september's bride

I don't really believe in the whole idea of reciprocity when it comes to weddings. People and relationships change, and I think everyone understands that. We've been invited to weddings by couples who were not invited to ours, simply because we've grown apart and no longer talk or interact.

I don't know if that's proper etiquette or not, but neither DH or I could justify inviting people we haven't spoken to in two years just because they invited us to their wedding. Granted, our situation is different than yours since you still have contact with these friends. So maybe I don't have any advice for you. Hm.

PoopyPants23

Yeah, I think everyone has different-sized weddings, or weddings that are more or less intimate, so it's not automatically expected that you invite everyone who invites you.

JessAndTrav

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What a lovely name you have.