Former Co-Worker???

dupp0002

I sent my save the dates several months ago for my September wedding, and included all of my coworkers including those who work out of our Atlanta office (the main office is in Philadelphia)....  We're a small shop, less than 25 people, and there is plenty of room on the guest list (and while many likely won't be coming anyway as the wedding is in Wisconsin, enough are close freinds and/or expressed interest in coming that it was better to include all).  Since the STDs were sent, one of the Atlanta office workers has left the company - she and I don't know each other all that well, and including her was always a formality.... do I still send her an invite???  It seems awkward either way.

dupp0002

I feel like I probably need to, I just feel like it's asking for a gift from someone I don't really keep in touch with (hence the awkward)

Meegles4

I agree with all of what Duds has said.

Likely, she won't even come to the wedding, and I don't think it'll look gift grabby since you'd already sent her a STD so it's not as though she's not expecting it. Also, she could decide not to send a gift if you guys really aren't that close. I have a few friends of my parents that did that, so obviously wedding invitation =/= wedding gift.

aragx6

I agree that you should still send the invitation to her. it doesn't sound like space is an issue for you, which is good, because it's way more awkward/rude to not invite her once you've sent a save the date.

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She probably will decline the invitation, but because you sent the STD, you need to send an invitation.

Kate61487

ditto PPs - although if her job change also involved a move and she doesn't respond to your request for her new address then you're off the hook.

AbbeyS2011

Sending an invite does not equal asking for a gift.

It is this simple -  STD = Invite

It is the recipient's choice to accept or decline.

dupp0002

Thanks ladies, needed to hear the validation that sending an invite after she left wouldn't look like I was trying to get an extra gift out of someone. 

Multiple weddings in our office this year and there was serious awkwardness over the one that didn't invite everyone - put us all in a weird place... extra fun!