Opinions I guess...

shanliann

I'm going to do my best to make this short cuz I tend to babble. Also, Sorry if Im posting in the wrong place.

In May of 2011 we met with a reception hall, Received all the normal information every reception venue gives you, including pricing, perks, etc. Most this stuff she had already emailed to me, but she also give it to us printed out in a nice folder. great.  We decided immediately this was "our" venue. We wanted to sign our contract that date but they only book 13 months out, so we returned in August of 2011 and signed the contract for Sept 22, 2012 wedding.

Now the wedding is a week and a half away and all the finialzing decision making is being done. So they have emailed me over our BEO a couple times with errors, or we decided to make changes, so today they email me what we think is the final BEO for me to review and then sign. So i start looking over it with a fine tooth comb before I sign it, and almost all the prices are higher then our orignal price sheet. Its not even our adult dinner, our adult dinner price stayed the same but for example....

Kids meals are listed as 12.00 each, and they are now charging us 21.00 each

Also our price sheet says drink tickets are 4.00 or 5.00 and our BEO says 5.50

The price sheet lists Signature Drinks at 4.25-5.25 and our BEO says 6.75



I have emailed our coordinator to bring these to her attention, but at this hour I know she is gone for the day, and I won't hear from her until tomorrow, I am just looking for some advice from anyone who had the same problem, or anyone who can tell me if I have a leg to stand on in regards to this.

I know prices change, but there is no way chicken fingers nearly doubled in cost? and if there was a price increase how about be an adult and just tell me!!!!

and for what its worth, the file i was sent, it is  named "wedding menus 2011-2012, and clearly our wedding is in 2012.

NOLAbridealmost

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[QUOTE]I'm going to do my best to make this short cuz I tend to babble. Also, Sorry if Im posting in the wrong place. In May of 2011 we met with a reception hall, Received all the normal information every reception venue gives you, including pricing, perks, etc. Most this stuff she had already emailed to me, but she also give it to us printed out in a nice folder. great.  We decided immediately this was "our" venue. We wanted to sign our contract that date but they only book 13 months out, so we returned in August of 2011 and signed the contract for Sept 22, 2012 wedding. Now the wedding is a week and a half away and all the finialzing decision making is being done. So they have emailed me over our BEO a couple times with errors, or we decided to make changes, so today they email me what we think is the final BEO for me to review and then sign. So i start looking over it with a fine tooth comb before I sign it, and almost all the prices are higher then our orignal price sheet. Its not even our adult dinner, our adult dinner price stayed the same but for example.... Kids meals are listed as 12.00 each, and they are now charging us 21.00 each A<strong>lso our price sheet says drink tickets are 4.00 or 5.00 and our BEO says 5.50 The price sheet lists Signature Drinks at 4.25-5.25 and our BEO says 6.75</strong> I have emailed our coordinator to bring these to her attention, but at this hour I know she is gone for the day, and I won't hear from her until tomorrow, I am just looking for some advice from anyone who had the same problem, or anyone who can tell me if I have a leg to stand on in regards to this. I know prices change, but there is no way chicken fingers nearly doubled in cost? and if there was a price increase how about be an adult and just tell me!!!! and for what its worth, the file i was sent, it is  named "wedding menus 2011-2012, and clearly our wedding is in 2012.
Posted by shanliann[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Say what, now?</div><div>
</div><div>Drink tickets?

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shanliann

yes drink tickets?

NOLAbridealmost

Are you planning to give guests an allotted number of drink tickets?  That's really rude.   Or is that just the price that you are being charged per drink the guests consume?  That's not rude, obviously.

shanliann

our favors were under budget, we both had our hearts set on shot glasses, so we decided to add a drink ticket to put in each shot glass, since we had the money to spend.

lyndausvi

You need to look at what your contract says.  There is no way in hell my husband (a chef) would honor prices a year out. Prices change a lot through out the year.  This year with the drought a lot of things are way more expensive. 

That said, there are a lot of other places who do honor prices far out.  Great if you got that kind of contract.

It really just depends.

My take is Kids meal going from  $12 to $21 might be just transposing the numbers.

As far as drinks,  it's possible there was an increase on prices.

NOLAbridealmost

Wait...so are you doing a cash bar and giving guests a drink ticket as a favor?

Again, that's really, really rude.  If you're offering liquor you need to pay for it.  Why else are you concerned about the pricing?  If you're just passing the prices along to the guests what difference does it make whether the drink tickets are 4.00 or 10.00?  It's still going to really irritate your guests. 

Skip the shot glasses. Skip any of the frills necessary to pay for your guest's drinks if you want a reception with booze.

shanliann

we are hosting 5 signature drinks and beer. we had the option to include wine, but i honestly know our guests, and we wouldn't go through 1 bottle the whole night.

so our guests dont need to spend a penny unless they chose.

DramaGeek

Ditto Sparkly.  And Lynda.  And Nola.....damn I'll just sit over here and look like a bobble head while I nod along with everyone else's posts.

shanliann

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[QUOTE]You need to look at what your contract says.  There is no way in hell my husband (a chef) would honor prices a year out. Prices change a lot through out the year.  This year with the drought a lot of things are way more expensive.  That said, there are a lot of other places who do honor prices far out.  Great if you got that kind of contract. It really just depends. My take is Kids meal going from  $12 to $21 might be just transposing the numbers. As far as drinks,  it's possible there was an increase on prices.
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

see, i live in iowa, i KNOW the drought has effected prices, but the cost of our adult meals(which lets be honest, is the biggest cost) didn't change at all. We even upgraded it, and the upgraded price is the same as the upgraded price on the price sheet.

But how is the drought effecting alcohol costs? or the prices of chicken tenders? And I'd like to give them the benefit that it was a typo, but in 4 different places?

I can already tell I'll be losing sleep over waiting on a response from the venue.

shanliann

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[QUOTE]Ditto Sparkly.  And Lynda.  And Nola.....damn I'll just sit over here and look like a bobble head while I nod along with everyone else's posts.
Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]

and of course im at work for the next 11 hours, and the darn contract is at home!

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Opinions I guess... : see, i live in iowa, i KNOW the drought has effected prices, but the cost of our adult meals(which lets be honest, is the biggest cost) didn't change at all. We even upgraded it, and the upgraded price is the same as the upgraded price on the price sheet. But how is the drought effecting alcohol costs? or the prices of chicken tenders? And I'd like to give them the benefit that it was a typo, but in 4 different places? I can already tell I'll be losing sleep over waiting on a response from the venue.
Posted by shanliann[/QUOTE]

<div>Well I wasn't saying the the drought in the mid-west effects everything. </div><div>
</div><div> A lot of things effect prices.  Sometimes it's something we can relate to, like the drought.  Or other things are behind the scenes, like taxes are higher or something simple like benefits for employees or electric or gas prices to delivery the alcohol are increased.  </div><div>
</div><div>Sometimes they choose to increase the price of alcohol over food because people will except a $7 drink over a $6 drink more than a $15 dollar burger over a $14 burger.  </div><div>
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</div><div>BTW  - really think the kids meal thing might have just been a typo.</div>

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I guess I'm still confused.  If you are hosting 5 sig drinks and beer....what are the drink tickets for?


And yeah, unfortunately, you are going to have to ride this one out until tomorrow.  Are you within a decent driving distance to meet in person with your coordinator?  Bring both sets of what you were priced and what you are being given now.  See if she can point out where in the contract it says about price change?

shanliann

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[QUOTE]I guess I'm still confused.  If you are hosting 5 sig drinks and beer....what are the drink tickets for? And yeah, unfortunately, you are going to have to ride this one out until tomorrow.  Are you within a decent driving distance to meet in person with your coordinator?  Bring both sets of what you were priced and what you are being given now.  See if she can point out where in the contract it says about price change?
Posted by munchkinmiss[/QUOTE]

the drink ticket is for anything. ANYTHING. no limits on that.

The venue is about 35 minutes away, I could surely go in to meet with her, but I'm pulling extra hours at work to try and get everything covered before im gone for 2 weeks. So its literally, work, home to sleep, back to work. I could try to get down there Friday after getting my hair done, it would just all depend on how long my hair takes, because I have to be to work.

I'm really hoping you are all right about the kids meal typo. :)

missglinda14

I'm still confused. If you are hosting 5 signature drinks and beer, why do they need drink tickets? Is it in case they want something else that you aren't hosting?

shanliann

i guess its just an added favor, that they can walk up to the bar and walk away with whatevr drink they want, not just there choice of 5.

JanoBean75

OP, I think five signature drinks, beer, and whatever non-alcoholic beverages are plenty. Is it too late to get rid of the drink tickets? You can put that money toward another signature drink, or wherever else you want to upgrade.

I think what PPs are getting at is that asking a guest to pay anything at all is rude. You can avoid the etiquette breach by closing the bar beyond those 6 alcoholic choices.

If I'm at a wedding that didn't have an open bar, but the B&G were hosting 6 different drinks, I'd choose from that, even if my drink of choice wasn't on the list.

shanliann

We actually just decided to get rid of the drink tickets! too funny! ou WONDERFUL venue decided to tell us that they way they do drink tickets is you pay for how many you get. not many are turned in and used, how many you pick up. So if you pick up 100 and only 20 are used, you still pay for 100. I've worked in weddings for 10 years and NEVER heard this done this way. Anyway since we are not doing assigned seating there will be 16 kids that get drink tickets, which clearly wouldn't be used, so I'm just done with the drink tickets, it was supposed to be a nice added touch but it is causes much too much hassle and stress at 9 days out from the wedding!!

As far as the bar goes, with the hosted signature drinks, and hosted beer, we have made so that all guests can enjoy bar services, without reaching for there wallet, however we just wanted to give them an option. The reception is at a hotel, and the hotel has a bar in it, and our wedding coordinator said that it would probably be easier to have the cash bar option, because otherwise guests who want other drinks will just go to the hotel bar, and #1 that causes alot of guests to be coming and going and leaving the reception alot, and #2 everything that is sold at "our" bar counts towarrds our reeption counts, but if our guests go to the hotel bar it does not. so i guess it just all around makes more sense? am i making any sense?